You know you have to talk, but wait. You know there’s something about you that’s hard to pull out, but you don’t quit, are you afraid of being rejected, afraid of being vulnerable, feelings of shame that make you rethink how you feel?However, you don’t know, silencing our own emotions poisons the soul.
In the end, this attitude will eventually repeat itself. Do you feel among them? Yes? And the? Whenever you need to express how you feel, how many times have you felt guilty for not being brave enough to allow the words to flow unrestricted from your mouth? How many times have you regretted not having done it? Do you let go of what your soul screams? Perhaps it is time to repeat this phrase that we all know, but that we prefer to ignore: “whoever swallows a lot ends up drowning” is more serious.
“I carry a deep sadness in my heart that occasionally needs to burst into it. -Franz Liszt-
As children teach us to silence our emotions, we start by holding back tears when necessary, we begin not to say what we really feel because others can reject us, and rejection brings bitterness and pain, fear begins to settle in us as a gag for our emotions and feelings.
Anger, anger and sadness are negative emotions that we learn to contain because showing them leaves us in evidence, projecting the image that we are human beings unable to control ourselves. On the other hand, loving, embracing or saying “I love you” Are positive emotions that are also silenced, either by the fears we have dragged from a young age, or by that feeling of shame, sometimes so useless, that haunts us everywhere.
However, to do so is to go against our own nature, we are emotional beings. As much as we want not to feel, even if we silence our emotions, they will stay there. You can try as hard as you want to shut up, but sooner or later your body will react. Those tears, those words you hold, will come out somehow without you being able to do anything to avoid them.
“A pain that doesn’t drain with tears can make other organs cry. Francio J. Braceland-
You use your body as a container in which to pour everything you feel but refuse to express, suddenly you are unable to explain why you feel so much physical discomfort, why depression and anxiety have been installed, or why insomnia and dissatisfaction begin to erase. The hope you had before, to do certain things. His body is starting to alert him that something’s wrong.
Silence is always seen as a trait of wisdom that allows us to listen to others, as well as ourselves, can help us to listen to our own body, how it reacts, however, at the end of the day, it is important to express your feelings.
Similarly, it is essential not to ignore a truth: to say and express what eats you inside does not necessarily mean hurting others, the fact is that, in expressing our own negative emotions, we sometimes get carried away by the energy of all that. has accumulated, and then we can cause significant damage. Therefore, controlling emotions is easier when you don’t have many accumulated emotions to block.
A good way to put our positive and negative feelings in order is to write, doing this gives us pleasure, a kind of liberation, but be careful! Don’t hold on to it and be quiet about your emotions. Putting your irritation or affection on paper will never replace the very action of verbalizing it: the warmth of a white sheet will never be the same as human warmth.
“We are not responsible for the emotions, but for what we do with them. -Jorge Bucay-
On the other hand, taking care of other people’s emotions and feelings can increase your own emotional burden, you have had enough with yours, do not try to marry any more, stop living constantly with this need to speak, but with the idea of being silent You will not feel free, you will feel condemned.
In your attempt to control your emotions, you will eventually lose control. They reign, they will be exposed one way or another. Shutting up our emotions is neither natural nor beneficial to our health. Remember that “the one who feels wins, even if he loses. “
Images courtesy of Kristin Vestgard.