Everyone, at some point in the day, says something that is not entirely sincere and we know it, lies or dishonesty serve to protect us from what may happen, if we interpret something harmful going to happen to us, we tend to distort the truth in our favor. In this way, we protect our self-esteem, or rather, we get rid of the possible negative consequences.
They say being honest doesn’t mean everything you think, but never say the opposite of what you think.
- But the main lack of sincerity is not always fear.
- Passion for others sometimes makes us choose a pious lie.
- This kind of lie is mild.
- Almost incessant and does not last long.
- And can be useful and even beneficial to all.
- Since it avoids greater and unnecessary conflicts.
Are we not trying to defend the lie? no way! – but we want to convey the idea that always being honest with everyone, whatever happens, is not the best idea if what we want is not to make mistakes in these situations.
Psychologists jokingly adopted the term sincericide to define this behavior by which a person, believing himself honest and courageous, is sincere in front of others without any filter, while others have not asked for his opinion. The word speaks of a “suicide”?? abstractly, for an excess of attachment to the truth.
This act is generally considered reckless, inactive and verbally irresponsible, sincerity ends up developing conflicts with the people around it, because it can be considered rude behavior and, in reality, we could consider it as such.
In order not to be mean to everyone, the ideal is to evaluate in advance what we are going to say and calculate if the person who will receive the message is ready to digest it emotionally.
Not always being honest is a virtue, because education and respect must be at the forefront, especially if it is something that no one will use or that no one cares about, saying everything that happens in our mind is a sign of social backwards, of not adapting to the rules of the game.
How many of us have ever bothered because someone said our outfit didn’t fit or because they saw our ex with someone else?However, finding the right context and the right time and knowing how to hold back up to that point becomes a virtue that should be some comments that simply remain or can be made in other circumstances.
Everyone has the right to know the truth, but they also have the right to set their own limits on this knowledge. Ideally, as adults, we are emotionally strong and accept the inconveniences of life, so that we can act righteously.
The problem is that the truth sometimes hurts? It’s very. Not everyone is prepared to receive very negative or dramatic news.
Imagine you’ve been diagnosed with a serious illness: would you like to know that you’re going to die?Would you rather they hide the truth or would you like to know how much life you have left?Would you like to be informed of the bad news?
As we said, it’s good to train so we can face what life gives us, but doesn’t that mean it’s sometimes good for the truth to be exposed?in the same way we do with others to regulate the impact of our messages.
If we are able to show empathy for others, we will be careful enough not to cause harm and to find the precise words, without ever saying the opposite of the truth.
To be honest without becoming sincericidal is an art, because it involves putting yourself in each other’s place, knowing if the circumstances are good for him to receive the truth, and also using verbal tools?And not verbal? Appropriate. .
The psychologist Rafael Santandreu says that to be comfortable with oneself we must always tell the truth, but not be with others, that is, we must not invent the truth that we already know because, in this way, we would fall into the self. deception, and this would not allow us to face life satisfactorily.
The really important thing is that you have to be careful between telling yourself the truth and over-criticizing yourself. It’s not the same to tell a truth: “Today you didn’t give your best in patient sessions,” that “You’re a terrible psychologist, you must leave this profession forever!”.
A sincere commitment to one’s own person is also not the best option, as everything, virtue is in balance.
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