Everyone lives their life and sexuality as they see fit or as they see fit, but when we start a relationship, we must be convinced that we must respect that union.
There are couples who accept to live their relationship in an unconventional way, but this is not always agreed in clear terms.
- Each relationship is unique.
- So we must share what we expect from it.
- What is desirable and what we do not tolerate because it goes against our principles and needs.
In this sense, we accept that it is usual to live a relationship that establishes a connection with one person, with which we choose to share our lives.
In this case, there is no justification for infidelity or even the end of love, if a person has a relationship with another person while he has a commitment to his partner, he does not respect his relationship, his partner and themselves.
This does not mean that the person who has been betrayed should not forgive his partner, the problem is that his feelings and emotions were seriously wounded, bringing insecurity and humiliation.
The worst infidelity is one with emotional connotations; in fact, it is the most disturbing and difficult to overcome, because it involves more than just sexual contact.
There are studies that show that this problem depends on our gender
Men are more concerned about sexual betrayal and women than their partner falls in love with or attracted to someone else.
But it shouldn’t be like that. What matters is betrayal or lying, which is always a sign of disloyalness.
It’s not just about romantic ideas, it’s about a question of values. We may even find it natural for a person to have sex outside of marriage, but that doesn’t mean that this betrayal doesn’t emotionally hurt someone else.
Ideally, reflect and understand the feelings at stake. One way or another, our freedom ends where the freedom of the other begins. Be responsible and do not attempt to justify the suffering it can cause.
As mentioned above, there are couples who tolerate open relationships, but this is not very common, so ideally maintaining frank and honest communication to discuss these issues with our partner.
Relationships change, love and people change, so what we think is appropriate in the present moment can also change.
There is no reason for someone to play with our feelings or confidence, but we have to assess every situation in context. We all make mistakes and infidelity is just one. What is happening is that we attach great importance to fidelity.
Isn’t there a magic formula? To avoid infidelity, it happens. We must believe that “there is a life after betrayal”; it’s a situation we can overcome.
In any case, it is important to be aware of our feelings and emotions, in this way we can take the time to overcome everything, first ourselves, then as a couple, if that is your wish.