They are only children, but they have grown and matured earlier than expected, although their bodies are small and developing, there are small adults in them who know much more than we believe or think, suffer, live and experience adults, have been pushed to assume responsibilities that are too heavy for their age.
Many parents are blind to their children’s problems, or rather to their problems that end up affecting their children, their frustrations, their pains, their difficulties, all of which affect children and adults are not aware of it.
“It is easier to raise strong children than to repair broken adults. “
-Frederick Douglas-
You may have been a child who didn’t have to grow up early, you may never have been hit by the complications and difficulties around you, but for many children there was no other option, they couldn’t just ignore the situation and live their childhood as if they were normal children.
You may remember those moments when you were scolded for acting like a child. You’ve probably heard phrases like “Stop jumping,” “Are you acting like an adult?”And, in the case of girls, “stop acting like a child. “. “
Looks like jumping and playing isn’t well-seen. From a very young time we are accused of doing things that are, in fact, “children’s things”. Why are they forcing us to grow?Even if they are small, they teach us that it is better to grow and mature fast, but sometimes this situation is more pronounced.
Problems of relationship between parents, situations of abuse, asking too much children, arguing in front of them, all this marks them and influences them, personally I remember the situation of a friend who told me that when I was little she lived in a very tense situation between her parents, where infidelity was the main protagonist.
No child should be a victim or responsible for their parents’ problems.
She understood everything, but was treated like an idiot, experienced surveillance, followed by the car to find out where the infidelity was, arguments in the middle of the night that woke her up and made her cry, situations of physical and psychological abuse. that she saw with her own eyes. He even had to mediate between his parents.
He vividly recalls a phrase his father said aloud to his grandmother. A short sentence that made him understand how wrong adults can be: “Leave the child alone, he doesn’t understand anything. “
Several years later, this conflicting situation showed its adverse effects, became an emotionally dependent person and was e wrapped in several toxic relationships, as well as the terrible lack of self-esteem and insecurity that this brought into her adult life.
Children understand everything, they are not fools as adults think, so we often ignore them and do live scenes like those described above, all this has consequences for them and, as parents, it is our responsibility to avoid it. to happen.
Let’s look at a completely different situation: poor countries where children start working from a very young time to help their families, they are just children, but they act as adults, they did not choose, life led them to take responsibility for situations they should not have in their hands.
Growing up, they know how to listen to others and feel a little disconnected from people their age, they are much more mature, they have grown psychologically, although they are children in the physical aspect, the experiences have marked their life and this causes this feeling being different?Other.
Let the children be children, because this stage is only lived once in a lifetime.
We must allow children to be children and behave like children, they should never live situations that may affect them in the future, especially if we can avoid them, but above all, it is our duty to banish from our minds the idea that children do. They don’t understand the adult world, because they often understand a lot more than we think.
Underestimating what a child may or may not understand can cause a lot of suffering, rather than watching for your well-being, we involve you in circumstances that will one way or another eventually mark your life, your future will be greatly influenced by what they are going through today, so it is in our hands to take care of them with great care and attention.