Hours go by very fast, so we want things now, by law, we don’t know how to wait. It makes us very nervous and stressed, we are used to satisfying our needs without taking our time, however, what happens when we cannot control it, what happens when our problems dominate?
We’re all in trouble. Sometimes they occur in our romantic relationship, sometimes in relation to our work and often due to internal conflicts. As soon as a setback occurs, we want to resolve it immediately. In this rush, we end up doing it bien. no it’s about solving the problem, it’s about overcoming it.
- When we talk about fixing a problem.
- We intend to overcome it How many times have we ignored our problem!And how many more do we plan to disappear in a few days?A challenge is an opportunity to improve.
- Learn and break that barrier that we have risen or risen in front of us.
Let’s take a very common example. When we lose a loved one we go through a grieving process in which we learn to accept that that person will never be with us again. The duration of the duel will depend on how you are, so you can never determine how long we will be. You will have to overcome this negative and sad experience.
As we see in this case, it is not a question of fixing what is happening to us, but of overcoming it, of course it will not be pleasant. You’ll be sad, can this emotion affect your bones?But wanting all this to end can make you pretend? Or to believe that everything is fine, when in reality it is not.
No one can tell you how long you’re going to need, this can take a few weeks, a month or even a year, in this period you have to learn to accept what happened, to analyze your emotions, not to lie to yourself by repeating that “everything is fine”. There is nothing wrong with being bad, everything that happens to us and affects us will not be positive. Therefore, it is essential to learn how to give space to this pain so that we can heal and problems are solved.
Perhaps the rush to overcome your problems as quickly as possible is because you compare yourself to others, people who have gone through the same thing as you and have taken less time to recover But the truth is that you are not these people. Each of us is different. Our sensitivity is different, like all the experiences that have confirmed who we are today.
Also remember that time is wise. If you’re taking a little longer to resolve this issue, it may be because you’re not ready. You may need to mature and time will allow you to mature. Maybe it’s important that you learn never to fall for the same mistake again, or it just means you’re delaying that trip to the psychologist that would do you so well.
Have you been sick for a year or two?So, what are you waiting for for help? When we have a stomach ache, we don’t hesitate to go to the hospital to help us, because we ourselves are not able to stop the pain. But when the problem is in our minds, we raise obstacles and “take it. “
A psychologist is a professional who can help you and give you the keys you didn’t know to learn from what happened and overcome it, it can also help you mature, see circumstances from another angle. Give more importance to physical pain than to emotional pain?And, interestingly, is the latter the one that causes us the most trouble?
Adversity will occur and we need not fear the time we might need to overcome it. Sometimes we are not prepared, and at other times, believing that we are already well done that the obstacle is still there. it will never be the solution. We can postpone the time to deal with that, but it will probably be bigger too.
Remember how many times we talk about mistakes and how they are so that we learn, not embarrass ourselves or stop chasing what we want, the same goes for problems, they do not solve themselves and that is why they will get stronger.