Some people have the gift of breaking the knot of all difficulties and making you laugh until your stomach hurts, they are so because these people’s lives have music, rhyme and it is very simple, while others defend nothing and are offended by everything, see only walls where we see bridges, bring storms on quiet days and senseless irritations that generate distances.
Why are human relationships so complex? We could say that, in our day-to-day life, it is better to avoid those who like to change our psychological balance and to meet only those who give us joy, however, this basic principle of health cannot always be respected, because living together, it is necessary to know and understand the views of others and, above all, , learn to survive in all environments, whether inhabited by noble beings or angry dragons.
“Life must be lived with love and humor. With love to understand it and humor to support it ?.
Many times those who argue about everything go through a depressive process, other times who laughs at everything uses an aggressive, even self-destructive mood, all kinds of behaviors have their extremes and, above all, their meaning. Understand them, do we have to be wise readers and translators of these extraterrestrial worlds that revolve around us, influencing their eclipses and tides?
Peter McGraw is a university psychologist famous for creating the “humor lab. “He studied, for example, the impact of humor as therapy and the use of laughter as a “drug”. To improve the quality of life of Chronic or Cancer Patients Science supports these initiatives, although it has already been proven that, stead than laughter, what improves the day-to-day life of these patients is their attitude, optimism and inner strength.
In addition, Dr. McGraw established in his theory the differentiation of 4 types of humor, because sometimes many of those that make us laugh are not always so happy, they are not always a reflection of an adequate inner well-being. this study to better understand the kind of dynamics we observe in our daily lives.
According to the above classification, it is clear that when you say that someone has a “great sense of humor”, “we really need to know what kind of humor you practice and what its impact is on others. We’ve all experienced a time when someone makes us laugh, but the feeling that invades us is strange and uncomfortable, as if we were instantly perceived as a malevolent shadow.
Tal Ben-Shahar, professor of positive psychology at Harvard, is known as the “guru of happiness. “His publications on emotions and humor are always an interesting reference to better understand certain behaviors, such as what lies behind these people who argue about everything and seem to have a lot of fun complicating their lives and those of others.
Domenico Cieri Estrada-
The answer is simple: unhappiness. Behind this heartbreaking word lies a kaleidoscope of poorly managed, ill-seen and unresolved situations, no one deserves to live this abyss. For example: low ability to tolerate frustration, lack of problem-solving strategies, unrealistic expectations, lack of thinking, low self-esteem, low emotional intelligence?
We can all go through situations like this, complex moments that end up weakening, in this way we start to see problems at every moment, we lower the blinds of our positivity and turn any conversation into discussion. discouragement and unease, all respectable and understandable, but we have to get out of those toxic waters to be ourselves again.
To achieve this, we need willpower and self-control. Don’t be a victim, collect the broken pieces as if it were a specific craftsmanship, repair every corner and crack with the glue of self-esteem and the varnish of motivation. In this way, we will also understand that all who laugh are not happy and that even those who argue over everything are not lost causes, we can all heal, we can all find balance and happiness.