I am a strong person, of those who has already been bitten more than once by life, however, I like someone to take my hand from time to time and tell me that everything will be fine, I like to be told that there is much to do and little to worry about. Feeling this need is not a weakness, but the courage of someone who thanks you for your support and comfort when you need it.
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry rightly said that failure strengthens the strong, this happens for a very simple reason: to gain the right strength and build the foundations of courage, you must first have fallen, first you have to feel the wound of disappointment, the emptiness. loss and/or the error mark on the skin itself.
Everything will work out in the end and if not? It is not over yet
In this way, and because this type of profile is a great connoisseur of how to repair these internal cracks, only strong people understand what it means to receive from time to time a word of hope and a friendly hand that offers to lift you up. who turns his back, all support is valid. In a time of difficulty, even the best of heroes and the brightest of heroines would want to thank someone who says everything will be fine, because if there is one important thing in life it is faith.
As of 1920, Edward Throndike understood emotional intelligence as an “ability to understand people by helping them act wisely in their relationships. “In addition, he also said that if there was one dimension that normally characterizes the human being, that dimension would be emotional hunger. “Do we all sometimes need more support than we receive, more consideration than we receive, more recognition, and even recognition?Why not?more present affection, more tangible.
However, if there’s one thing most self-help books recommend, it’s learning to “support ourselves. “In other words, we must put in place appropriate strategies to develop good self-esteem, strong self-esteem and a strong personality with which to get ahead in any difficulty. If it is true that all this is positive and even recommended, there is one aspect that should be very clear.
The person who invests in his own personal growth and psychological strengths should not fall into the trap of practice, so aggressive, in which he needs no one else, because sometimes those who need nothing offer anything, and almost without realizing it, they do. end up practicing true emotional materialism.
The secret is in the balance and in the understanding that a strong person is not a person free from suffering, nor insensitive, nor devoid of feelings, the strong are those who once let the thes be weak and who, inside, continue to suffer along the way So these people, more than anyone else, must not only provide support, but also allow thee to receive these emotional blows to satisfy their hunger , with which to continue to heal their silent wounds.
We all need someone at some point in our lives to hold hands and tell us that everything is going to be okay, there are times when self-confidence is not enough, when good self-esteem does not guarantee success, solution or happiness. There are specific moments when nothing is as cathartic as dividing weight, reducing the strength of fears and worms of anxiety.
We know, for example, that doctors who shake hands with their patients and convey positive, comforting and hopeful messages to them are able to reduce patients’ fear and anxiety; at the same time, few tranquilizers are as comforting as this parent who can dispel their children’s concerns, inviting them to believe that everything will be fine.
There are moments, and this happens to everyone, when the brain blurs and mental darkness appears, because negative thoughts have the bad habit of being resilient, of being like the can that establishes negativism with suffering, uncertainty with chaos.
When this happens, when fear riders travel freely, we are not always able to apply a rational perspective to them to understand that defeat is not a disaster or that a disappointment is not the end of the world.
In those moments, a friendly hand, a pure mind and a willing heart can work miracles, because not all paths of healing can be taken in solitude, because even if we have learned to be autonomous, no one is free to go through the darkness. fallible and weak moments.
When someone tells us that everything is going to be okay, it helps; when someone reminds us that in life, everything comes and goes, it relieves us; when someone takes us by the hand and promises us that they will be with us no matter what happens, transmits tranquility and a lot of calm, that’s why we must learn to accept help, to be humble and to allow ourselves to receive what others willingly give us, and most importantly, to be able to offer others the best of us to create more receptive , stronger and emotionally healthy environments.