Sometimes it is not love that ends, but patience, that is said holy, because it resists winds and tides and always ends up giving more than it should.
Now, how can you not offer everything for that person with which you have built an emotional and vital bond, or even a life project?
- Is it clear that it is justified to yield so many times more than it should.
- Exercise forgiveness today.
- Tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.
- And wait a little longer in the hope that things will get better?.
Sometimes reality ends up falling by its own weight to open our eyes. Our hearts can’t erase how you feel overnight, but when you lose patience, all blind sales start to fall apart.
There are those who say that patience is a virtue, but it is clear that this dimension cannot be applied in all areas, and that it must also have certain limits.
You cannot spend your life being patient, seeing how your rights become vulnerable, because you need reciprocity, care, affection and recognition.
It’s not the same patience in love as passivity
As we have said before, it is common to define the concept of patience as a virtue, it is people’s ability to postpone certain things with which we are satisfied, because we believe that this long-term expectation will bring better things.
Patience is also defined as a competence: that we must tolerate adverse situations over which we may or may not have control. Now, when it comes to love, it is necessary to maintain control of our own reality.
There are those who justify themselves using this word as a dimension to be assumed.
Things are going wrong, but what can you do? It takes patience. “What can I do if I do so? I can’t change it, so is it better to be patient?”
In fact, there’s the real key. We can be patient, we can make patience our best virtue because it helps us to better analyze the situation, that is, to observe, to be reflective.
However, this whole inner process must allow us to see true reality
A patient doesn’t have to be passive. The passive person makes tolerance their way of life, allowing abuse to feel even in their skin how vulnerable their integrity is, and that is something that should never be allowed.
When it comes to establishing an affective relationship, patience is a pillar of the day-to-day that we must recognize, of course, you don’t have to like all aspects, behaviors or habits of your partner, but you won’t act impulsively by throwing the fact head-on and ending the relationship.
We are patient, respectful and tolerant because we love, because we also know that in every couple there is a time for things to soften, so that everything fits and in turn, we understand the needs of each one.
Patience should be reciprocal and performed almost as an exercise. I am patient with you because I respect you and I love you, because I recognize you as a person, and I know that to love is not only to enjoy coincidences, but also to respect differences.
Now, patience in turn requires emotional clarity. You need to know where the boundaries are and understand when we become vulnerable as individuals, as members of an emotional relationship.
There is no need to be passive in the face of the demands of selfishness, given the position of prioritizing one before the other, we must not look fat at needs, nor be impassive to the emotional pain caused by emptiness, contempt or subtle abuse through poisonous words.
This is where patience must fall, pulling his veil to see the truth
When patience stops, disappointment comes because we are already aware of our reality in all its nuances, in all its contrasts. Now, that doesn’t mean this relationship should end right away, if you’re still in love with the other person.
It is time to speak up, explain the situation clearly and say how you feel and what you need, it is not a matter of avoiding the problem, if you are interested in this commitment, you will do everything possible to fulfill it.
However, for a relationship to prosper or heal these painful needs, the effort must be mutual, when one offers more and the other only apologizes, patience is completely lost and with it disappointment becomes an abyss.
Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to understand that we deserve better.
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