We often try to find the best solution to our problems and do so through behaviors that become a new problem. We cling to our comfortable lifestyle and refuse to explore new avenues. Adopting alternative perspectives often scares us.
The problem is that, in many cases, people are content with a comfortable but unsatisfactory standard of living, much of the projected life does not fit the main goals or values, but is there anything?That prevents us from properly dodging the stone, that makes us stumble.
- Fear of what exists outside my comfort zone leads me to failure.
- Leads me to go through negative emotions or anything that might disturb me.
- Binds me even more to what is already harmful.
- But known.
In this sense, we remain in romantic or family relationships that give us almost nothing or even that continually harm us.
We continue to work below our capabilities or where conditions are not favorable to us, rather than risking a more responsible position, and so we ended up thinking it was the best solution: to settle for the usual.
The familiar is usually more comfortable, a comfort that we overestimate, although deep down we know that comfort does not always mean profit.
The abyss involved in escaping from comfort is so great that one chooses to suffer a superficial pain, but it continues, the other more intense, but finite.
Comfort seems to be a popular element among humans, it is true that living comfortably gives us a sense of control that greatly reduces our level of anxiety.
If we face new situations every day without knowing if they are beneficial or harmful, we could die of stress, so seeking a dose of comfort for our lives is not inherently harmful.
When does the problem occur? The problem arises when we choose comfort when we are not as comfortable as we think.
In other words, what we have in our present is familiar, we know how to move through life like a fish in the water and it seems that we are able to control what happens to us, but after all, it is not. True. First of all, because we can control little more than ourselves.
On the other hand, what seems comfortable is not so much, ask yourself: am I satisfied with my life?Do I make the most of it?
In the short term, taking what you have can give you peace of mind, but think long term or look back: are you at the same point as always? Don’t you think something is wrong?
You’ve probably fallen into the trap of comfort. You feel like you’re climbing a ladder leading to a cliff. You fall and come back the same way with a lot of inclination. This loop entry is familiar and comfortable, but better?
As we already know, the best solution is sometimes not the simplest or most comfortable.
The fear of having to go through uncomfortable situations, which we do not control or that can add to us in negative emotions, does not allow us to take new paths.
Our company has been in charge of giving us the pressure to be happy and suffer as little as possible, it is how to feel the negative emotions is a sign of weakness, we want to avoid them at all costs.
We say to each other, “Better the little known than an unknown good. “And with that, don’t I want problems, do we get on with life, running away from anything that might bring laziness, discomfort, sadness, guilt?
The end result is constant dissatisfaction. It gives you the feeling of “I’m missing something. “This happens because we think about today, conforming to what keeps us in the same place, without thinking that tomorrow’s life could be better. To reach the other shore, sometimes it is necessary to cross a stream full of rocks and very cold water. An awkward but necessary tour.
The key, in this sense, is to manage our steps intelligently, in good and bad ways.
Hitting the table, losing unfounded fears and realizing that all those monsters that said they would appear if we took a chance, would rarely appear and, if they do, they won’t be so terrifying. Remember that our mind is always responsible for enlarging everything. .
Sometimes the best solution is not the familiar, but the uncomfortable, the uncertain. For example: “I’m here for everything that comes and goes. I’ll approach it in the best way possible. I’ll cry if the situation requires it and if I feel like it. Will I laugh whenever I want?.
In this way, by radically accepting what life holds, we will generate new experiences and new learnings, leaving a precious space for surprise.