Sometimes we think that life denies us what we want when it actually just says “Wait, everything has its time. “It is difficult for us to accept that every situation and event has its moment and that there is no reason for the world. leaning at our own pace.
We usually grow up with the inner conviction that it’s normal to think, “I want this and I want it now, I don’t want to wait any longer. “So when you see that what you really want doesn’t happen when you want it, you realize that every desire has its time and that all you can do in a hurry is create illusions and expectations.
- We must strive to live here and now.
- To foster our ability to wait and the gift of patience.
- Because it will help us enjoy life as it is.
The issue is to invest efforts to continue to succeed, until we achieve our goals, goals and desires, it is only by failing, falling and climbing that we can taste what we want and it never seems to happen.
The same goes for love, which never comes when you look, but when you least expect it, it’s something we don’t understand and that can despair us to the limit, in fact, when you want love and it doesn’t appear, you end up thinking it’s our fault and you don’t deserve love.
In fact, the internalization of something like “wait, everything has its time” forces us to do a great exercise of self-control, that is, if someone puts us in front of a situation and we know exactly what we expect, We wait for that result to happen, we have to try to focus on other points so as not to pay as much attention to the expectation itself.
In other words, use self-control strategies that allow us to suppress the temptation to trampl on the order of things and try to move an event forward. It’s tempting. In an experiment conducted in the 1960s by psychologist Walter Mischel of Columbia University, the children were placed in front of sweets and told that if they waited a minute without eating the sweets, they would have another candy and then they could eat both.
Some of the strategies used by children who initially did not eat sweets were to dance, sing, turn the other way, be distracted by other things, later, following the lives of these children, it was noted that those who did not eat sweets and had a greater ability to control impulses in childhood maintained this capacity in adulthood.
Now, by metaphor, we can see that seeking rewards is something we do every day (for example, we will work to earn a salary at the end of the month). The struggle between our desires and self-control (between instant gratification and delayed gratification) translates into great emotional learning from a young time.
Sometimes rewarding events take time and our impatience can break the flow of circumstances, in other words, tear down the walls we had already built for our castle.
What is really worthwhile requires a lot of effort and enormous capacity for waiting and sacrifice that, from time to time, defeats us emotionally and physically, we cannot understand why our little moment of glory does not come soon and overwhelms us with uncertainty. .
Anyway, this leads to great emotional learnings that, most of the time, we don’t realize:
If what we finally want happens, we must be aware that nothing that happens is a mistake, every decision, every moment that has been made, and every feeling at the moment that is generated in us, all of this is appropriate for the moment.
That is why it is important not to give up understanding the meaning of everything that happens to us, because as Victor Frankl said: life potentially makes sense until the last moment, until the last breath, because it is possible to extract even meanings from suffering ?.