Talking fluently is an important factor influencing the course of our relationships and, in addition, indirectly, also influences self-esteem and the ability to manage conflicts.
This skill goes beyond the theme of the appearances and image we project, if you can express yourself easily, your whole life is enriched and improved.
- Language and expression are realities directly related to thought and emotions.
- Confused thinking or very intense and incoherent emotions hinder our ability to speak fluently.
On the other hand, speaking fluently does not necessarily mean talking a lot, nor does it carry the burden of maintaining the conversation, in fact, people who find it difficult to give in to speech can generate a deep rejection.
It is advisable to develop the ability to say what it means with the highest precision and at the most opportune time. But how can you do that? Below, we will give some recommendations that may be helpful in this regard.
“Men can be divided into two categories: those who speak to say something and those who say anything to speak. -Prince Charles Joseph of Ligne-
Meditation is one of the best ways to clarify and order our thoughts, so it’s also a good way to improve our ability to speak fluently.
You do not need to become a Tibetan monk. Just take a few minutes a day to breathe deeply, trying to empty your mind.
This practice gradually leads you to think in a more orderly and precise way, it also allows to give less and less importance to irrelevant ideas, a clearer and focused mind always adopts a reflection of the fluidity of expression.
Listening is another great way to improve your ability to expression, which improves your communication ability and helps establish a connection. If others feel listened to, so does the likelihood of being heard, so the relationship will benefit.
By reading, enriching your vocabulary and improve your intuitive knowledge of linguistic structures, it is something that happens without you noticing, good novels, essays or poetry put you in touch with the most refined forms of language, which increases your chances of speaking fluently.
Writing, in turn, is an activity that helps sort and absorb ideas. Order is required to write. An order that we sometimes come to the need to translate our discourse into paper, in this sense thought and projected discourse give us extra confidence when it comes to expressing ourselves.
On the other hand, it is very important to learn to trust your own voice. Therefore, it is advisable not to measure each sentence, modify it until it becomes artificial, false or oblivious to how you feel. When thought is clear in our heads, there is no reason to silence it.
Don’t be the one who gads at your feelings, unless there’s an important reason, otherwise lack of oxygen can end up hurting you a lot.
Talking fluently has nothing to do with using elaborate words or techniques for everything, nor is it about assuming such an intense formality in the way you express yourself that it makes you look like a completely artificial person.
In this sense, speaking directly and easily will allow others to understand you faster and more easily.
In addition, it is necessary to respect your interlocutor. Know your name and mention it when you speak. Respect also means accepting each other’s ideas and not insulting thoughts that are different from yours. You can express your disagreements by giving up intolerance.
In today’s world it has become very common for people to want to express themselves naturally, many believe that this indicates more security or autonomy. Subjective? It acquired a certain negative connotation, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be.
The subjective is also valid and you have the right to express subjective observations about what you want.
In many situations an open and communicative attitude will be the key to avoid causing or resolving misunderstandings, in that sense hiding your opinions because they do not match others is not a good idea.
Will that only increase tension, so that when we are no longer able to do so, we end up exploding, saying phrases that, in fact, do not express our feelings?
On the other hand, in case you are afraid to talk about how you feel, especially when you feel positive, we recommend that you make an effort to put yourself above fear as well, in addition to nurturing the self-esteem of others, it also indirectly feeds yours. It will be easier for others, or many of them, to adopt the same attitude towards you.
Talking fluently helps make relationships with others more fluid, while increasing the sense of autonomy and freedom.
It is worth offering better communication with yourself and with others, without a doubt it is something that will have a direct impact on your quality of life.