I keep thinking, sometimes (often), that the hardest part of overcoming the difficult times of our lives is when we have to forgive ourselves.
It is so easy to recount the sad and tragic facts of our journey, to blame the people who accompanied us for our failures and to assume a part of guilt, but never absolve the other of the responsibility of our misfortune and failure. “Isn’t that right?
- This wound remains.
- Corrodes.
- We decide to move on.
- Start over.
- But every now and then we stumble upon a feeling of melancholy that reminds us of the past and that forgiveness that has not yet been given.
Sometimes, after a while, we stop feeling so hurt and ask others for forgiveness, the wound gives way to a guilt that does not happen, until the day when (fortunately, I think), we painfully discover that what remains is to forgive ourselves. ?Was it me?.
It is this day that comes full of clarity, as if you had been honored by a divine light that will show you those dark spots that you have not yet seen. Points themselves? We’re to blame. For a moment in your life, or in many of them, you have chosen to live this, be in this situation, provoke that feeling, cultivate a friendship, a relationship, in any case the perception we choose is almost overwhelming.
You have not been the victim of circumstances or people, nor have you caused victims. We all make decisions that lead us to the paths we take. Sometimes (often) we make the wrong decisions, what can I do?I think only of learning from what we call “experience. “
Of course, I’m talking about tragic events, victims of violence, etc. , I’m talking about relationships between people. Loves, friends, workers, etc. I think at some point we see things the way we want them and we make a sale, sometimes quite firm, sometimes a little translucent, but that allows us to move forward regardless of the pros and cons.
Are there people who make decisions, good or bad, who trace a life trajectory by collecting pains, memories, loves, celebrations, disappointments?I think when you realize that everything is related to the decisions you make, the expectations you create, you understand that what you really lack is to forgive the other. Ourselves.
The other did what we let him. We did what we wanted to each other to satisfy a need, and that allowed for that too. There are no culprits. There are no victims. Only people, alive, selfish and realistic looking for what suits them.
Forgive me for packing up and leaving. I’m sorry I came here with the intention of staying and then realizing that it wasn’t. I’m sorry I blindly trusted someone imperfect. Forgive me for saying things I didn’t really feel, but wanted to. Forgive me for feeling the need to do it again, even if the person who accompanies you is where you are.
Do you forgive yourself for blaming yourself so much, when it’s all part of what we call living?Because there’s no victimism. There are people who make decisions all the time. Action and reaction. Law of physics. The law of life, also known as? Vivre.