Throughout our lives, do we love and love many people, colleagues, friends, family?But do we know the difference between loving and loving?
The word as implies a certain degree of possession and attachment, while loving is a freer feeling.
- American philosopher.
- Writer and businessman Paul Hudson wrote a column in Elite Daily explaining the 10 differences between being in love and loving a person.
- Hudson argues that:.
“To be in love is to want to own a part of the other person. It is the belief that this person is so wonderful that you want him to be a part of your life, a part of you. When you fall in love with someone, do you feel an intense need to consume them? somehow?
Walter Riso, an Argentine psychologist, points out that to have a healthy love you need a balance of the three facets of love:
Therefore, there is not only a love of a couple; There are three types of love that must be given together: Eros, Philia and Agape. The absence of one of these facets will give way to incomplete love, a love that will not make you happy because something is missing.
In our lives they teach us to memorize, to be productive professionals, but they do not teach us something fundamental: managing our emotions and love.
Is love the absence of selfishness?
? Erich Fromm?
Borja Vilaseca, writer, lecturer and entrepreneur, says that everything starts with knowledge, then comes understanding and so it can be accepted to be able to love.
Our worst enemies on the way to learning to love are
? The ego. It is the excessive and non-moderate love that a person feels towards himself, the ego prevents you from learning because the person believes that he knows everything, feels superior and cannot love others.
The ego can manifest itself in many ways: anger, when the person does not get what he wants, control of others, pride, pride and hatred, which prevents us from seeing the good in others.
? We’re constantly wrong, we say everything’s fine when it’s not really. We believe in what we say to ourselves, without realizing that there can be an abyss between what we think and reality.
? Cowardice, being a coward is something that limits us and prevents us from being who we are. You have to be brave, face yourself and continue your journey bravely. You must dare to be yourself.
? Lack of humility. Recognizing one’s mistakes and always learning from them is fundamental, our humility in accepting mistakes will facilitate the path of self-love and love for others.
? Lack of perseverance. When they tell you you’re crazy or you shouldn’t do something, listen to your heart, how you feel. Don’t be discouraged; persevering, he will achieve everything he has decided to do.
? Fear, Fear prevents us from seeing, prevents us from deciding and doing what we really want. In love, are we afraid of being hurt, afraid of being rejected?But love is always a risk and you have to learn from every situation.
And remember, to love someone else, you must first love yourself
Our relationship with others is a faithful reflection of our relationship with us.
To love someone is not to blame, to judge or criticize, to love is wisdom, it is to understand ignorance and unconsciousness.
“When the eye is not blocked, the result is vision. When the mind is not blocked, the result is wisdom, and when the mind is not blocked, the result is love. -Chinese Proverb-