“Is man the only one who has stumbled twice on the same stone?Says a saying you’ve probably listened. But what happens when we stick so much to the stone that we end up falling after stumbling?
“I always make the same mistake,” “I don’t know why the same thing happens to me all the time,” “I promise it will be the last time and I always fall back into temptation. “This can be applied to many life situations, such as forgetfulness, separation, or dependence.
- Humans are habit animals.
- Maybe cheating has become a habit.
- So he chose to pick the stone from the ground and take it with him wherever he goes.
Do we usually complain about routine and do the same things because they bother us, what if we start thinking about what we unconsciously repeat that makes us suffer or be sad?
If you ever said you wouldn’t lie anymore, why did you do it?If you swore you wouldn’t go back to your boyfriend after the last fight, why did you run away when he called to apologize for the nth time?If your goal earlier this year was to quit smoking, why did you buy cigarettes again a few days ago?
“I didn’t understand,” “This time it’s final,” “I don’t have control of the situation,” are some of the most frequent excuses. We don’t like to leave our comfort zone because we feel safe there, even if we’re not happy. We know perfectly every inch of our stability and take refuge in the shadow of the stone that makes us fall again and again.
Perhaps we could imagine that we are in a great cage, with the limitations and lack of freedom that this entails, but also with enough stability to stay and live there for a long time.
And you don’t realize that while you’re in this place, things are going to happen over and over again, the routine of waking up, drinking coffee, going to work, going home, watching TV, showering, sleeping?is more or less similar to everyone. Until at some point, we say “Enough. “
Life becomes a succession of similar moments and we don’t realize it. The alarm goes off when we face a situation that hurts or disturbs. And then we thought, “Didn’t this happen to me before?” It’s like you’re a magnet that attracts the same thing over and over again. If only they were good things, wonderful !! Unfortunately, this is not the case in all cases.
I’m sure you’ve lived more than one situation where you’ve been wrong several times with the same person, the same activity, the same thought, the same job Why is this happening?A psychological explanation has to do with the education we received from an early age.
When the children explained how to do things by imitating others, did you see your mother brush her teeth to do the same, look at an older brother to learn how to ride a bike, while the teacher wrote the letters on the board?We could also have learned not to be affectionate, to scream or cry when we wanted to achieve something, to discuss everything, etc.
Every interaction we have with someone, whether in our intimate environment or not, will shape us into what we are growing, thus incorporating in our mind successive instructions on how to do everything without questioning it.
Therefore, clinging to the stone that caused the fall presents two important problems, on the one hand, the fear of leaving the comfort zone in which you are, and on the other hand, the habit of doing things by repetition, as they have taught him in the past.
To break these habits, the first step is to imagine that life is not limited by an enclosure such as a cage or aquarium; secondly, we must understand that there are thousands of different ways of doing the same, with even better results than those achieved so far.
Doing more will not bring different results. We need to change the strategy.