We suffer in silence, we hide in the circles of our private shells to suffer in solitude, in calm, without anyone noticing. Do we look resigned and pretend that nothing happens while our internal battles are fought relentlessly?Until this happens, until the day, when, without warning, we break up.
We are social beings, but we choose to suffer in solitude, we prefer to share laughter, good times and cling to the routines of daily life with those around us, because that way we can have a sense of control, as if nothing were happening, as if nothing devoured our emotional entrails.
“It takes more courage to face suffering than to die. “Marlene Dietrich?
Psychologists and psychiatrists are aware that trauma and silence often go hand in hand, it is not easy to say what hurts us, for two very specific reasons: the fear of being judged and, above all, to show our vulnerability. Relentless world, strong personalities, people who do not complain and show efficiency, optimism and personal safety triumph.
All this leads us to believe that today suffering remains a stigma, something that re-examples show us why there are so many people with depression who are not treated and why suicides among young people reach alarming proportions.
Let’s think about that
Recently, a well-known newspaper published a personal letter from a woman saying she could no longer kill herself, that she was a mother for the third time and felt unable to get out of bed, curiously almost 80% of the comments were derogatory, scratchy in cruelty.
Do you like it a little more and will you suffer less?
Postpartum depression or the very difficult phase of postpartum remains taboo to this day, if a woman suffers from this mood disorder she is immediately punished, as she is always expected to be 100% happy and willing, so many mothers live this episode from the gates, privately and fearing the criticisms of society.
The same goes for teenagers, boys and girls who are harassed but remain silent, without asking for help, trapped in their cages of loneliness and privacy in their rooms, the only place where they feel safe, it is necessary and almost imperative to react earlier. it is too late, before the will weakens and our reality is little more than a meaningless doodle.
Suffering isolates, but the connection with others and ourselves is therapeutic and cures us. When we share our vulnerabilities and suffering with the right person or a qualified professional, we have two advances. The first: stop self-botage. No one chooses to suffer postpartum depression, no one deserves to be intimidated, slave to a traumatic past or a lost childhood, no one should be neglected to the point of no longer loving each other.
“When you suffer, remember a happy moment. Does a single firefly destroy the darkness? Alejandro Jodorowsky?
The second is that we will achieve a proper emotional catharsis, many people come to psychotherapy dressed in the armor of anger, hiding the fragile being that inhabits them, reconciliation and the proper connection with their environment will gradually break the chains of suffering.
It’s definitely a slow and laborious process, but it’s something we all deserve: stop suffering in silence and have someone to understand and help us. Think about it, get out of your solitary shell and let yourself not be afraid.