For psychoanalysis there are two ways of looking at reality: external reality, which is shared, and internal reality or psychic reality, which makes up the imagination, ideas and representations of each subject, that is, the way he perceives things and the world.
Therefore, we may think that there are visible wounds and pains and others that may be invisible to the eyes, but no less painful.
- Psychic pain or soul pain can be more overwhelming than physical pain in some cases.
- So when faced with severe psychic pain.
- The subject may find himself unable to process and overcome it by resorting to suicide as the only possible way out to get away.
- Of pain.
- Unloading it in one act.
Psychoanalysis aims to shed light on real or fantasized psychic pains, free of preconceived ideas and stigmas, helping to build new meanings and meanings for the suicide problem.
Excessive suffering, the absence of words, and the strength of something unrepresentable and insurmountable can lead an individual to suicide.
It is clear that, to reach this point, the individual is not in good mental health, having gone through a process of illness and invaded by traumatic events.
Some risk factors that can become suicidal tendencies are: the feeling of being a burden and preventing the happiness of the other ?, over-blame, feeling useless or self-recriminating for not meeting the demands and expectations of family and social problems, being the victim of discrimination, abuse and violence, suffering anxiety and depressive disorders, including loss and collapse , abuse alcohol, drugs and other chemicals, have serious economic problems, have attitudes of self-harm, have mental illnesses and other chronic diseases.
No gender, no religion, no social class, so any potential risk factor should be considered as a warning sign and a reason to seek help.
The therapeutic process can contribute exactly to giving voice to the individual, placing him in the position of a subject who speaks and is heard, who speaks and listens. He does not listen to others, but listens to himself, being able to symbolize and give meaning to what affects him through the word and not through the act (of taking his own life).
When I say that I do not listen to others, I mean the fact that many times others do not say anything that can help, but they cause the suffering individual to blame themselves even more. We have, as an example:? Do you have everything, get carried away by your nonsense ?, do I know anyone who has been there and acted like this or baked ?, do you need to go to church ?, do not cry for him, are there many other people ?, etc.
Therefore, listening to a qualified professional allows questions about the subject to be raised, enhances its potential and does not attempt to place it in stereotypes outside the “social norms”.
Remember that friends and family can help someone who has suicide risk factors a lot: proving that they care and care about the person, taking an interest in what’s important to them, keeping happy memories, etc. an open mind and a stance that does not generate threats, encouraging the person to seek professional help.
It can be said that suicide is not a rational act, it is an act committed by someone who is vulnerable and becomes a victim of himself.
Finally, what drives a person to commit suicide can essentially be the desire to live and not the desire to die, because he may have created for him the illusion of a life he believes he cannot live.
“I was horrified by the gap between who I am and what I wanted and could have been. “Tolst-i-