We all have a certain fear that prevents us from acting, whether it is the fear that our partner will leave us, the fear of losing our job or having an accident, many times our own fears generate a series of behaviors that promote, albeit in subtle ways, that what we fear will happen, that what we so desire to avoid becomes more present.
So does that mean that when we’re afraid of something, we can somehow end up attracting our object in fear?Yes, for example, if we are afraid of being abandoned by other people, we can look for friends or relationships that make us relive many times our sense of abandonment. An already known feeling that may be the only way we can connect.
- Confirming that what we fear most can happen to us can paralyze us.
- It can also make us think that we are very unfortunate.
- That is why we are afraid to act and take a step forward.
- Because to get out of the situation where insecurity dominates our lives.
- We must open ourselves to the new.
- And the new is usually something more than scary.
The problem with living in fear all the time is that we will always be ahead of events. In this way, we will always assume and imagine a thousand situations that could occur in the future. Let’s say things like “I know it’s not going to last long in this job, or “Is this person going to find someone who wants more than he wants me?” or “I’ll never try to open a business, obviously it’s going to be bad?
“If you think you already know everything, then you haven’t learned anything. ” – Alfredo Vela-
With all these premises it will be really difficult to find the courage to act, except that this has a serious consequence: we will end up being trapped by the limits that we have set ourselves. By the barriers we build over time, to the point of making our comfort zone a very small space.
Living with constant fear is a personal perception. It’s not real. We often venture to try to imagine in our minds what would happen if we made a certain decision, or what would happen if we left our comfort zone. But this will never lead to a happy ending, because we always will. we face a sea of possibilities and, in general, our insecurity will make us expect the worst.
Acting is critical. If we are afraid of everything and always find it very difficult to make a decision, our choices will only be the result of a lack of options.
That’s how we make the biggest mistakes. Waiting until the last minute to make a decision can leave us with no options or make us choose wrong. Similarly, when we are so afraid to act, we can allow others to make decisions for us. That’s another big mistake.
If when reading you identify with these characteristics and find it difficult to make decisions, then you may also have the characteristic of always wanting everything under control, it is a necessity. However, this is impossible, no matter how much we want to control everything around us.
Imagine that one day our boss will fire us, unexpectedly and suddenly, we wouldn’t know what to do. The same could happen if one day, as well as that, our partner left us, when we are people with difficulties in making decisions and acting, surprises are never welcome.
“I look at unexpected situations and sometimes there are great opportunities. ” Joseph Pulitzer.
When are we calm and? In our comfort zone, something also happens, little by little that fear that keeps us so trapped is exhausting us, this can be seen through the doubts that we constantly carry on our backs, or in the insecurities that we fail when in fact we are fully qualified to do so.
Acting is essential to live according to our desires and prevent others from living our lives. We all have fears, but we can all beat each other.
Instead of letting fears limit us, we can use them to our advantage. Use the force of fear to make us tremble, doubt, and flee stagnation and act. Let us decide without prioritizing the fears of our minds. In this, fears are only strong as long as we let them strengthen.