We all have in us the child we once went to. Caring for our inner child is vitally important for emotional development and maintaining healthy self-esteem.
Many in childhood had emotional wounds that were not resolved and keep our inner child injured to this day. Now we can try to understand what happened to heal him.
- When you feel a negative emotion.
- Ask yourself why you feel that way and try to understand.
- Look for ways to improve this negativity.
- This inner child needs love and acceptance.
How were you about 8 years old?Try to visualize what you were physically and if it costs you, you can look at a photo to refresh your memory and capture as many details and memories as possible.
Now do a visualization and imagination exercise. Imagine yourself as a child, alone in your room; What did you do when you were there?, imagine this stage of childhood, see the past and remember every detail, what furniture was in your room, what colors, what did you throw away?
The more real details you bring to your imagination, the better the effect of exercise. Now imagine how you are now, entering the room you had when you were little. You open the door and you see a child, discouraged, insecure. This kid, it’s you when you were little.
In the room you are, as now, accompanied by a child, which is the stage of your childhood And what is the point?To heal your past wounds. Your adult can treat, talk, caress the child he or she was, using his or her imagination.
Come to this wounded, sensitive and fearful girl and ask her what’s going on, now you can understand her, kiss her, hug her, give her protection, support and love, do this, treat yourself as you would have liked to be treated. a child.
Give her love and understanding, hold her tight and tell her that from now on you will be safe, take care of her and accept her as you deserve.
Play with it, have fun, let your spontaneity emerge. Keep imagining and visualizing that you’re taking your child where he loves, where you most wanted to go when you were a kid. What whim did you want and couldn’t have, what ailments did you miss?
Now you can give it what you want. Go out and have fun, and when your inner child feels motivated and happy, go back to the room, leave her there safely and say goodbye, telling her that whenever you need her she will help you, understand you and give you love.
If you have done the exercise and awakened your imagination, you will find that your most insecure, cruel and fearsome parts come from your inner child, try to take care of him, desire him and accept it and you will notice an emotional development, because his self-esteem will be strengthened.
Adults who have a healthy inner child don’t feel silly when they want to do something that’s not typical of adults, such as crossing a park and climbing a swing; they don’t mind people being surprised.
Adults with the inner injured child are repressed when they want to do typical childhood things, they want to convey a correct and serious picture of adults, without realizing that all humans should be children from time to time, and that’s not bad. it’s not immaturity, we’re just going to let our inner child have fun.
Adults who have children can re-entertain their inner child while playing with their young children. Who’s never heard them?
Adults without children tend to further suppress their typical childish behavior: they don’t hit the ball, they don’t make fun of fools, it’s as if, as an adult, you just have to be right and not behave immature.
The truth is that there is nothing healthier than letting the inner child be spontaneous, do not suppress it, adulthood also needs, from time to time, to enjoy this fun part.
Images ceded by José Miguel and Dani_vr