It is obvious that we like to be in contact with others, that they love and care for us and that they share part of their time with us, however, it would be beneficial to understand that the greatest need is to take care of oneself. , love yourself and know how to be happy with yourself.
No one is essential for us to be happy, nor for us to feel satisfied, although many times we believe that we are not, what others give us, in fact, is a voluntary thing that is more rewarding if we do not expect it: those who want to be, will be and care for us without having to ask for it.
- We are unique and individual.
- So we have different emotions.
- Experiences and ways of interpreting life.
- So what we are and what we feel we can only solve ourselves: if we want people to take care of us.
- For example.
- We must first learn to take care of ourselves.
“Because no one can know of you. No one can grow up for you. No one can look for you. No one can do for you what you need to do for yourself.
-Jorge Bucay-
Bucay said no one can grow up for us, and I was right: no one, however much he wants it, will be able to put themselves in his place. It is better that the highest expectations and the greatest challenges are placed in one direction: inwards.
In this sense, we are faced with a large number of opportunities that we can take advantage of and a multitude of decisions to make, taking care of ourselves means that we will be aware of what can happen to us at any time, and we will be sure that maintaining the balance depends on ourselves.
When we lose our balance and have to row against adversity, we will have a lot of people by our side, however, we should not count on that, because surely there will be not the number of people that we think are a priori: there will be someone lost whom we were waiting for and surely someone will appear in a surprising way, so we cannot calculate the strength that the people who accompany us can give us , but our strengths.
Sometimes, for example, we have to get rid of someone and we think it will be impossible to get out of there: we don’t conceived the idea that we have to be for ourselves first and then for others, to feel dependent. However, this is just a set of mirrors: we will have stayed there and will never fail.
Frankly, the one who needs to be with you is yourself
And the rest comes alone
in the form of a healing,
mood for coverage
distances that have never existed.
Self-esteem in these cases is fundamental: believing in oneself is the first step in overcoming any harm or fully enjoying the joys found, and it is essential that others value and love themselves.
When we take care of ourselves and love each other, it seems that, by inertia, others love and care for us, the fact is that loved ones give us life, but in the end we are alone: alone to do what we want. we want what we have in front of us.
“We were born alone, we live alone and we die alone. It is only through love and friendship that we can think, for a moment, that we are not alone. “
-Orson Welles-
Love, friendship and family give us the warmth that we sometimes miss and support us in all circumstances, however, if there is no heat inside, it will probably remain cold, it is useful to understand that the time we have available is ours. , as well as the decision to use it is exclusive and individual.
From everything we have said, we have defined the title of the article in this way: if no one takes care of me, I have an obligation to cultivate my personal self and grow it, to realize its dreams and overcome its defeats, to look for what makes me happy and to make the decision to share it with those who demonstrate that I want this privilege.