Talk about making love. But not only to speak with words, but to speak with our body, our attitude, our language, our appearance . . . Because we can’t reduce such an intense expression to a simple sexual act.
To make love is to make poetry, with our body and mind, with all our being, because love is made with two intertwined bodies and souls, united in their maximum emotional expression.
- Lacan was right when he said it’s clear.
- That it’s about making love.
- Can’t you reduce love to one?Simple carnal act.
- Because it is in the gaze.
- Being.
- To all of you and to all of them that the tenderness.
- Mystery and promptness of desire are transmitted.
“What I love about your body is sex. What I love about your sex is the mouth. What I like about your mouth is language. What I like about your language is the word. “
-July Cort-zar-
Do not take off your clothes completely until eye eroticism has overcome the carnal barrier, we seduce through countless acts, we connect through emotions, we get involved from the labels that the good act of love inspires us to create.
It is difficult to recreate this concept in a society that has received an education focused on intercourse, we have been taught that we must make love through simple sexual contact, but no, sexual contact is only part of love.
We usually realize this when something fails, when we skip that step and something goes wrong, when we’re not talking to the body, the looks or the hugs. So, to support our emotional needs, we communicate in a polarized way.
We make ourselves believe that the error is in our bodies when we do not let our minds connect, we forget that the preliminaries do not last 30 minutes, but for a long time and certainly something much more intimate than time, something that belongs to us entirely and that we must do to control.
However, the reflection that arises between these words is to emphasize that AMAR IS NOT THE SAME SEX. Absolutely not. At least not from the idea of love that we share culturally. Having sex can be understood as loving each other’s skin, but not inside or at least not by an interior that goes beyond the contact that is essentially represented.
Quoting again the magnificent Lacan, “love is the one who approaches the encounter with being as such”. The world would be totally different if before we undressed the bodies, we stripped away our souls, starting with ours.
Because, as we have said on other occasions, the most intimate encounter between two people is not sexual, it is emotional nudity, it is the exchange that occurs when fear is overcome and we make ourselves known exactly as we are. in each of our aspects.
Listening to us, connecting and knowing our emotional heritage, that is, scanning our emotional body, is fundamental to overcoming our fears, conflicts, insecurities, achievements, learnings, etc.
And it is essential to contemplate the image of our emotional mirror in order to project ourselves on what we use, whether it be looks, words, caresses or affections, so that is how love is made.