Speaking out loud has little to do with madness, but also to establish an internal dialogue to alleviate sadness and dispel concerns. In addition, few practices are more therapeutic. Because, after all, we all live with ourselves and communicating with our own being is vital, something cathartic and emotionally necessary to care for us as we deserve.
With great success, Aldous Huxley said that there is only a small part of the universe that we can know in depth and improve it, this part is ours and belongs to us: ourselves. However curious it may seem, it doesn’t always pay attention to this part, you don’t care as the one who leaves your diary in the drawer, like the one who leaves your house keys in other people’s pockets.
- “Neither the best explorer in the world travels as wide as the man who descends to the depths of his heart?Julien Green-.
In addition, as psychologists explain, we all use internal dialogue; However, we are doing it in the worst possible way. An example: Ethan Kross, a well-known scientist in emotional psychology at the University of Michigan, realized that humans are hopelessly prone to negative internal dialogue.
He noticed it himself one morning while looking at his cell phone, inadvertently crossing a pedestrian crossing at a red light, after colliding a little with a car that was about to run him over, he was surprised to pronounce his own name. out loud, blaming him for how stupid he could be.
Most of us do. When something doesn’t go as planned or when we make a mistake, it doesn’t take long for that mind-hungry voice to tell us how clumsy or useless we are, and it’s this persistent negative internal dialogue that leads us to serious states. helplessness and dangerously circumvent the abyss of depression. Let’s avoid this: let’s change the speech.
Professor Ethan Kross, mentioned above, conducted a series of experiments at the University of Michigan, which concluded something as interesting as it was useful: people who spoke to each other and began their dialogues by saying their names were more successful in their lives. , had greater personal security and seemed happier.
This may seem naive at first. However, talking to oneself allows us to do something that we cannot set aside, the brain works much better, its perception capacity becomes more skilful and we also properly manage our emotional world, so we are not faced with any unfounded formula. Internal dialogue has an obvious advantage proven by science, and many studies demonstrate this.
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Talking to you will not make us smarter overnight, what will happen is that we will improve our intellectual capacity, that is, we will strengthen our attention, our capacity for reflection, we will decide better, our concentration will be more concentrated and we will control distractions.
Something as simple as saying: Maria, do you focus more and think about what you’re going to do with this problem?Yes? Carlos, are you wasting your time unnecessarily, calm down and think about what’s going on?
“There are three extremely difficult things: steel, diamonds and knowing yourself. Benjamin Franklin?
Each of us lives in a particular environment and with a number of people with which the situation improves or worsens, however, in addition to all this context, we share life with ourselves, why then exclude ourselves from this equation?Why don’t we go out together during the day for tea or coffee and talk about how things are going?
No one will call us crazy, and whoever does it will surely lose one of the best techniques of self-help and personal growth. Here are some small examples of this:
In conclusion, one thing to keep in mind about the benefits of talking to yourself is that this will only be possible if we are able to control the negative internal conversation in the first place, who whispers to us little by little that no matter how hard you try, will it go wrong?or that ‘you’ve made a mistake again, it’s clear you have no solution. ‘
Let’s avoid that. After all, there’s nothing worse than becoming our worst enemies. Let us remember, for example, how Socrates defined thoughts: “they are an honest conversation that the soul has with itself”. So let’s try not to mistreat her. Let us take care of her as the precious good she is and talk to her in a positive, constructive and emotional way.