When we were children, we often talked to each other or expressed each of our thoughts orally. This is called “private speech” and it is an essential part of our growth and maturation process. As we grow and mature, the thought process is separated from speech and internalized.
According to Laura E. Berk, a renowned teacher and researcher in child development, the need for dialogue never goes away, in fact, a private discourse can arise at this time in life when we have to deal with very difficult or unknown situations. Activities. At the psychic level, this is a very useful resource to acquire new skills and overcome certain challenges.
- Talk to yourself? Doesn’t that mean I have a screw left or that I’m going crazy? No way.
- This practice can even be beneficial if you know how to take advantage of it.
Talking to you not only relieves loneliness, it also makes you smarter. As? Very simple: it helps clarify your thoughts, make decisions or reaffirm the ones you’ve already made, but keep in mind only one thing: talking to yourself is only beneficial if you speak with respect.
Unfortunately, some people are self-criticism and abusive. They say things like, “You should have understood that before,” “What an idiot have you been?”Should you have done this or that? Talking like this is worse than silence, so if that’s your style, make an effort to stop it right away, you have to talk like you’re your best friend, because you are.
Here are four ways to talk to you that will help you feel better
1. Think aloud about your options
This is useful, especially when you’re having trouble making a decision or when you’re at a crossroads and don’t know which path to choose. If you can hear your thoughts, you will sort your ideas more easily; you will see more clearly the possible alternatives and you will be able to make the decision that will make you feel better in the end.
2. Motivation
It’s a good way to encourage you to do things you didn’t want to do, but that are necessary. Can you say, for example, “Hello dear, how about today that we take the day to clean the house?”or tell your friend? Man, today, blameless, do you have to call the accountant and paperwork before you get a ticket?
3. Congratulate yourself
Why expect compliments from others? If all you deserve, can you still give?Felix-vous. Besides, most people don’t see your little hits, like when you went to the bakery and didn’t buy anything because you decided to lose weight, or when they finally had trouble finishing something on time and delivering it on time. He doesn’t deserve one: “Good job!” Of course, children hear this kind of thing all the time and adults rarely. Let’s fix it now!
4. Set goals
Suppose you’re trying to plan your vacation. Setting a goal and making a plan (where to go, when to go, etc. ) can be helpful. Of course, you can make a list of these things, but saying it out loud can help you focus your attention, strengthen the message, control your emotions, and eliminate distractions. Professional athletes do this all the time, things like, “Keep your head down, look at the ball, take a deep breath,” they say. If it works for them, why doesn’t it work for you, too?
Even alone, it will always be a business for you. Don’t let it go; talk to you, but always with respect. And be sure this isn’t a sign of madness?
Clarification: Sometimes talking to yourself, in fact, can be one of the signs of a mental illness (along with other indicators), however, in these cases, the person often also hears voices that respond, that is, the person usually has a dialogue with an unreal speaker. In addition, these messages are often incomprehensible or have little logic.
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