Emotional containment is something we all experience more or less often. It’s a consequence of our education. ” Don’t cry, strong people never show their tears. ” this is what we’ve been taught since childhood.
We often look for a secluded place to cry, where we can clear away all our pain and find relief to move on. Ventilation is healthy and necessary.
- However.
- We cannot get rid of this emotional coercion.
- Either by the education received or by one’s personality.
- Failures and sadness are hidden behind a smile or other activities that do not allow us to hear our inner voice.
Emotional containment is the opposite of emotional understanding. Someone who hides does not understand the mazes of the emotional network that defines him as a person; Admitting our weaknesses also makes us stronger. It is knowledge in the face of denial and weakness.
Emotional restraint literally means containing or suppressing your impulses, instincts, passions, and feelings. It’s hiding something in you, not only from the eyes of the world, but also from yourself. What’s the reason? Sometimes it is very difficult to understand, but psychologists talk about educational, social, psychological and even biological models.
The most useful and valuable knowledge we have is emotional knowledge, which helps us understand, to have closeness and empathy with others and with ourselves.
1- Defense mechanism
If I do not react to your betrayal and choose to move as fast as possible, without stopping to think about how I feel, I avoid acknowledging that you are hurting me and that my pain will be less.
2- Self-protection strategy
If I broom my sadness and pain, I will avoid looking like a victim in the eyes of others. To show my emotional pain is to show me vulnerability and lose control. No one likes to show their fragility.
3- Emotional ignorance
This may seem surprising, but there are people who have never been exposed to suffering, failure or disappointment. Take, for example, many of our young people who have grown up in a culture where all their needs are met, resulting in little resistance to frustration. If you suffer a sentimental loss or failure tomorrow, will you be overwhelmed or simply blocked?And they’ll opt for denial or emotional containment.
The tears that didn’t cry today will be an unsinkable void tomorrow. Unrecognized pains slowly lead us into the abyss, where we eventually fall into the form of illness or trauma.
We must understand that happiness does not come with a guaranteed duration, acceptance of the present moment, with its imperfections and problems, is a way of living with more integrity and emotional balance, where we assume sadness as part of life and our growth.
Many people have the ability to separate our inner and external reality. We get carried away by daily activities, work, routine, without understanding that we are just a “piece of ourselves”.
Which is the reason? We are disconnected from our emotions and from within, showing a false well-being, and when migraines, fatigue, neck and back pain appear, you fill yourself with painkillers, without realizing that they are just symptoms.
Symptoms of unhappiness, healthy tears and forgotten pains that now make us prisoners.
Never leave for tomorrow the tears that you can cry today. Release your anger, cry your sadness, analyze and accept your mistakes. Emotional understanding is a form of release that we must practice every day.