The phrase “tell me what you boast about and I’ll tell you what you’re missing” is used to summarize cases in which a person attributes a virtue, but it doesn’t take long to give contradicted signals. In that case, the promoted? It is a characteristic or attribute that the person accepts.
A person who speaks proudly of what he has done does not always develop this logic, which indicates the existence of this mechanism of assuming exactly what is needed is the fact that it exists in this attitude. The person insists too often on the fact, he has himself as a center of attention. There’s an exaggeration that’s notorious.
- In fact.
- Anyone who is immersed in this mechanism does not know it.
- On the contrary.
- The person really believes that promoting certain ideas or values.
- Being used as a role model.
- Is a great idea.
- Basically.
- His intention is not so much to convince others as to persuade himself that it is true.
- Are preaching with concrete actions and arguments.
What looks like a scoundrel that exalts more than he applies is actually a person trapped at the center of a defense mechanism. This mechanism is known as “reactive training” and involves initiating behavior to avoid a repressed desire. the person wants something that seems reprehensible and, to defend himself from that unconscious impulse, begins to act by forcing himself to do everything backwards.
There are many examples. This is the case of those who want to eat until they are satisfied, but feel that this desire is reprehensible because it can gain weight and be rejected, so it is spectacularly dedicated to following disgusting diets and fast food or that it has very intense sexual desires. , but he considers them a sin and therefore sets in motion a crusade in the name of chastity.
Much more common is the case of people who do their best to draw the attention of someone they really hate or despise, not that the person is lying or claiming on purpose, but that he is unable to recognize his own feelings because of morality. censorship it imposes.
Reactive training can be directed to a specific aspect, such as order or hygiene, but it can also become a standard of behavior that settles into the structure of your personality In that case, is there some kind of?False personality? In which virtually all of an individual’s actions are aimed at supporting this mask. They’re the kind of people who are told to “brag about what they’re not. “
What impedes the expression of desire is an extremely rigid moral conscience, or an external mandate that the person is afraid to transgress, so he boasts of what is not, without really being his intention, what identifies that a training mechanism has been initiated is the accentuation or exaggeration of words or actions. Isn’t he, is he direct enough, or is he?, especially marked, are signs that there is a hidden desire that guides the opposite.
Currently social networks are a true catalogue of this mechanism, sometimes it seems that they were designed precisely so that each person turns out to be, which is probably not the case. They show smiling images, even if they’re not happy as they seem. They boast about travel, new jobs, accomplishments, but something goes wrong when you need others to recognize you.
Reactive training can give way to an obsessive personality, which boasts of being something that is not, or thinking about something that does not think, and to be able to keep that self-illusion you have to be alert all the time. Look at yourself and prove at all times that you are not worthy of suspicion. The situation can become overwhelming as repressed desire returns over and over again, and you’ll feel surrounded by it.
In this desire to control the unconscious desire that you do not want to accept, you may be able to experience a lot of anxiety, it is possible to generate enormous inner tension, between what you are trying to express and the enormous effort you have. do to ‘keep the line’.
In these conditions, your strength can collapse and develop compulsive behaviors, so don’t forget your desires, whatever they are, keep in mind that they only become harmless when you recognize them and consciously decide whether to put them on or not. practice.