The way you see others can reveal a lot about your character and personality. According to the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, people who describe others as honest, friendly, and stable are satisfied with their own lives. Negative opinions about others are precisely the most antisocial, narcissistic and unpleasant.
This study shows that people who positively value their peers suffer from less depression and anxiety, while people who are too critical are more sensitive to personality disorders, especially paranoid or antisocial disorders.
- An essential characteristic of paranoid personality disorder is a pattern of distrust and suspicion of others in general.
- Which is why its intentions are interpreted as malicious.
- Which in turn implies that people with this disorder interpret neutral or positive messages as offenses.
- Provocations.
- Insults.
- The paranoid.
- When in doubt about the intention of the other.
- Always chooses the worst option.
- That is.
- He interprets what the other does or says as an attack.
Regardless of personality disorders, there is always someone who lives criticizing everything and everyone, in every environment we go to there is always someone who thinks the world is full of bad people, according to this study, wither right or not. , this kind of thinking does not contribute to your happiness. Besides, he’s probably an elusive, suspicious person.
“We don’t see others as they are, but as we are. ” – Emmanuel Kant?
The outside acts as a mirror for our mind, we see reflected the qualities or aspects of our own being, when we observe something in someone and we do not like or feel rejection, that aspect that we do not like can exist in us. Moreover, this rejection can be just a reflection of the rejection we feel for who we are.
It is also possible that our unconscious, aided by our projection, will make us believe that the defect exists “there” in the other person. Psychological projection is a defense mechanism by which a person attributes to others the feelings, thoughts or impulses that she either denies or is unacceptable in itself.
This mechanism appears in situations of emotional conflict or when we feel threatened internally or externally, to reduce our inner turmoil we focus on the outside as if all these qualities that we do not accept did not belong to us, we attribute these qualities to an object or person away from us in this way, our mind spreads this threatening content and combats it in the real world.
Psychological projection is a mental defense mechanism through which the person transfers his own virtues and defects to others.
The inner world tends to color the outer world with its own characteristics. For example, if we are happy, we generally look at the world around us with optimism and joy, expressing ourselves through phrases such as “today life smiles at me”, “what a happy day. “
Obviously, neither the day is happy nor life smiles at anyone, these qualities are really subjective and so we feel, the projection process is part of human mental functioning and therefore helps us to feel and think of the world as something humanized. .
Many times what we do not accept in others is precisely what we do not solve in ourselves, if we had solved it at first it would not have become a chronic problem, in these cases the acceptance of our shadows and meditation will help to get to know each other better and integrate different points of view before moving on to interpretations.
“He who knows men is intelligent; the one who knows himself is wise. He who prevails over others is strong; the one who wins is powerful. “Tao Te Chin?