Do we generally think that others provoke negative emotions, such as boredom, hatred, frustration, pain?But in fact, many times no one does anything, we are the ones who get hurt. We have to change.
When something bothers you, there’s something internal to improve. Think about when you feel bad about thinking it was caused by someone else. Ask yourself what you’ve been told, you’ll probably see how critical you are to yourself.
- For example.
- Think about the areas of your face or body that you like.
- If someone says something negative about these parts will have no negative effect on you.
- Of course.
- Because you like these parts and give your inner opinion more credibility than they say.
On the contrary, if they tell you something about an area you don’t like, you’ll probably have a negative emotion, so it’s not the other person who hurts you, it’s you, since you didn’t have a good opinion about these areas of their body, it was annoying, and that was because the other person’s opinion matched their own beliefs.
The truth is that if something bothers you is because someone has awakened you those negative opinions that you have of yourself and that may have been hidden to avoid them, however, when someone mentions them, they resurface and hurt us.
Many people think that focusing on their strengths and forgetting their weaknesses will improve their self-esteem, but it is actually avoiding the negative. What is avoided and not analyzed and accepted will remain hidden inside, but any day someone can attack us there, in that weak point that has not been accepted.
It’s good to value the good and put aside the bad, but setting it aside doesn’t mean forgetting or burying it, the negative part that we all have has to accept, otherwise you’ll have an emotional fragility.
It is better to put it aside, but to accept it, so that everything they say does not harm us, for we will have a well-formed opinion of all our being that will prevail over the opinions of others.
Personal acceptance in all areas is vitally important for inner peace. Almost all emotional and self-esteem problems are caused by a lack of self-ception.
A mistaken belief is to think that everything must be virtue. We all have virtues and flaws, no one escapes. We are imperfect humans, but each shows the facet that pleases him most.
If you learn to accept this, you will not be punished for your flaws, accept them as elements that we all have and appreciate the positive in you.
The next time someone makes you sick, remember that negative emotions are produced by yourself with your thoughts and think, when something bothers you, it’s definitely because there’s something to change.
As you change your example, imagine that you are 40 years old and still living with your parents. You’d like to be independent but things aren’t going well financially and that doesn’t seem possible. If your parents tell you “you’ll never be independent, let alone now that this crisis is coming and no one finds a job. “If that person feels uncomfortable, gets angry and feels negative emotions inside them, it will be because their inner opinion of this situation is the same as that of their parents.
In fact, no one has attacked us with this criticism, but it is we who, with our internal opinions, produce this discomfort.
Imagine if that person who received this comment from her parents thought she would surely find a job and soon she could leave the house?, did this comment make her angry and uneasy?, probably not, because internally she does not think in the same way as her parents. so this comment will go through one ear and the other.
If we understand it, our life will take a leap, nobody hurts us, nobody provokes our anger, we are ourselves, everything is in our mind and in our internal opinions.
So trust you, life, luck, your skills, love yourself and above all focus on your good and bad things.
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