Communication is one of the most important elements in the life of a couple, its good or bad functioning will be a great sign of the satisfaction that everyone feels with the relationship, so good communication is a guarantee of a satisfactory relationship with a future While poor communication virtually guarantees the not-too-distant failure of a couple.
In this sense, the content of the communication is as important as the form of transmission and the context in which it is transmitted, it is not the same to call a stunned person with an angry face and screams or with a seductive gaze and whisper. . On the other hand, it’s not the same to say, “You’re a mess!”And “dear, try to be more careful with your shoes when walking on the grass. “
Then we can consider the following tips
1. Nets speculating. Always ask when you don’t understand what your partner means.
2. No interpret. Our language does not need interpretation, translation is for those who do not speak Portuguese, the interpretations are subjective and full of meaning. Those who interpret will probably be based on family beliefs and emotions.
3. Net it up. Remember that people are unique and have free will
4. Net to conceive. Don’t put your dreams or hopes on each other.
5. Take a break. If you feel angry, stop. What evidence do I have of what I think is right?
Don’t use mind reading. No one can read the thoughts of others, even those who have known a person for a long time have neither the right nor the power to know their thoughts and emotions, do not forget to listen or resist the temptation to try to interpret everything in the direction it brings or expects.
7. Remember that the purpose of communication is to establish a channel to transmit our emotions, feelings and thoughts, for this we must actively listen, that is, really be interested, ask at the right time and not judge.
8. Be empathetic. It’s about putting yourself in the other person’s place, getting back on your feet and acting accordingly. It’s not thinking about each other, how would you like to be treated?It’s empathy.
9. Recognize. Referencing ideas are the path that leads to a psychiatric disorder, which leads to paranoid ideas and, in some cases, psychosis, suspecting, without proof, that everything that is said around you is for you and that they want to hurt you is a sign that you should seek professional help. You don’t have to hold on to ego and fight for reason.
10. Stop expecting the worst. This is one of the best ways to incorrectly close the communication channel.
Finally, there is perhaps the last and probably the most important ingredient: intent. When you talk to your partner, do so with the intention of building, wishing that when you’re done talking, the other person will feel better. receive the same thing, as if it were a mirror.
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