A child who does not obey can lead any adult to reach the limit of self-control. When this adult is a father who has left behind a hard day’s work and faces a hard day’s work at home, the tension at home becomes constant.
As much as it is advertised in the title of this article, there is no magic recipe to get the child to obey. A child is, in itself, a person with their own decisions, and these decisions tend to go against their child’s orders. or their elders. What is possible is to prevent the child from winning all battles and try to maintain a climate at home where calm overcomes storms.
Let’s take a look at these ten basic tips for your child to obey
1. La obligation to obey must be gradual. You cannot go from zero to one hundred, it is important to start by asking for obedience in tasks that are easy and pleasant for them and, when established, move to another level of demand.
2. Instructions on what the child should do should be simple and clear, always pronounced in a normal tone and at their level (not from the adjoining room and screaming).
3. These instructions should be given one by one, avoiding giving too much at the same time.
4. The child should get used to being ordered once or twice to obey him or her. If we go further, all we can do is change emotionally. From the third order “unheard of” there will be a consequence for his disobedience.
5. We must accompany the good behavior of the child with praise and sometimes low prices. Praising him and offering him affection when he does things right is nevertheless the best of prices.
6. De the same, situations in which the child does not obey must have a consequence (punishment, discussion, depriving him of something he loves) but nothing else, without attracting special attention for the lack and being there all day referring to it.
7. On many occasions it is good to use behavioral techniques such as the backup token or the points card, in a highly visible place the rules to follow (few and simple) and the days of the week will be placed: positive points They will give you points when you do well and negative points when it hurts. Depending on whether the weekly count is positive or negative, there will be prices or not.
8. Avoid continued punishment. Children become immune to this. It is more appropriate to value good behavior and ignore bad behavior than to have a constant discussion.
9. Try to avoid as much as possible the inferences of other family members by informing them of what you are trying to achieve and being categorical about the plan.
10. And the tenth? The tenth counsel may well be the first, the second, the third: patience, patience, and patience. A patient, controlled adult is the best mirror a child can look at.
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