Tendrillon syndrome begins with the union of two terms: Tinder and Cinderella, psychology has decided to name people who simply take advantage of the flirtation phase that this type of application gives them, but never make an appointment. they are tired, they end up activating the “ghost” mode, that is, they disappear without explanation?
What most of us know is that love, in the age of the Internet, is to put into practice new and dynamic practices that do not go unnoticed by psychologists, sociologists and anthropologists, so new labels, new names are needed to shape other patterns of behavior that obviously did not happen in previous generations.
- Tinderella syndrome is born from the union of Tinder and Cinderella and represents people who prefer the flirtation established via WhatsApp.
- But without taking the step of making an appointment.
That this happens is neither good nor bad, it is only different, now we have more opportunities to meet people and be even more selective in the search for a partner, we select profiles, we research, compare and make more or less thoughtful selections for We look forward to the long-awaited?Match?with which to move soon after to a new stage, in which we began to communicate with this person who caught our attention.
For many, it’s little more than fun marketing. These dating apps offer us the opportunity to separate love from sex and stay with it if we like. We can also continue our efforts to find a lasting relationship, which in some cases happens. In fact, most of us know beautiful stories that started this way.
However, in recent years, psychologists like Jenny Stallard and Emma Kenny have observed another kind of dynamic that they wanted to see through a very striking name: the tendon, are these people who cannot organize a physical encounter, profiles that only benefit from the simple flirtation and intimacy established through virtual channels?
This seems to be a big contradiction and yet it happens much more than we thought Why sign up for an app to flirt or find a partner if in the end you don’t want to meet that person face to face?Basically, because this initial phase full of news, discoveries, contrasts of interests and midnight conversations is more than enough and satisfying for some.
Now, to Tendrillon syndrome, an even more interesting element is added: is it common for them?Tendrillon? Flirt with multiple people at the same time and continually look for new options, new partners who will replace others when they decide to “disappear. “Without giving an explanation.
The following are other characteristics that define this type of behavior.
We said at the beginning: love in the Internet age, and especially in the Age of Tinder, has brought to light new challenges for many psychologists, however impressive, there are people who are forced to mourn a relationship that has never happened.
Are these ghostly, failed relationships that occur after a certain amount of time?Or they share confidences, projects, and dreams with others who haven’t lived physically. However, the expectations for this relationship were so high that after disappearing?From the other member, the suffering is enormous.
All this is happening now and it is an obvious reality, however, the problem itself is not at all in the person who is a victim of ghost mode, after Tendrillon syndrome, this personality is indecisive and insecure, perhaps with a social phobia or with an immature view of what human relationships are.
Have 5 or 20 suitors? In Tinder or the vision of having dozens of conversations on your Whatsapp to immerse you in flirting, seducing or awakening false illusions is a very tempting incentive for many of these people, they are positive reinforcements where there is no obligation. , where the game of seduction is constant without having to consolidate anything else.
The tendon or tendon will live forever in the illusion of childlike love, leaving countless victims in its wake. One more reality to take into account in a complex and constantly changing society?