Jealousy, over-control and manipulation are some of the characteristics of violent men and women. It is important to know these characteristics to keep us alert and avoid falling into a situation of double violence. At the beginning of the relationship, it may seem that these attitudes are born of a healthy concern for the other person, but it is necessary to set certain limits to avoid negative situations in the future.
It is common for our partner to show a little jealousy at some point, but if it reaches the limit of affecting their relationship with friends, colleagues or family, the problem is serious. Symptoms of this situation are: constant questions about whereabouts, who you’re with, or what you’re doing. At worst, if your partner is violent, they can forbid, question, or limit you in your relationships or outings.
- Have you noticed that your partner always seems right?Make all the decisions arguing that you can’t.
- Because these are symptoms of verbal abuse and you’re the victim.
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- People who abuse their partners have high insecurity and must be superior to others to get the minimum security they need.
- Need.
An abusive or violent couple will show the control they have over you, can take all your attention and gradually move away from the rest of your knowledge, in addition, control can also extend your finances, access to the car, recreational activities and, in general, any situation that limits your independence and personal strength. If you’re in this situation, it’s important that you quickly regain control. Remember that you can always consult a psychologist.
Have you ever felt like you were doing something you didn’t really want to do, was it because your partner took you there indirectly, in this case we’re talking about manipulation, an art that violent companions master very well. It is common for these people to use offensive language to achieve their goals and justify their actions.
Finally, an abusive couple will make you many promises that you do not usually keep, an attitude that is accompanied by a lot of manipulation, because it will always try to make you believe that they are doing everything possible to change. You find it hard to get away from these kinds of people, ask yourself: how many times has he promised to change you and how many times has he actually fulfilled it?
If you notice that your partner has some or all of these characteristics, it is recommended to move or divorce, many people who enter a situation of violence do so with the belief that they can switch to the other person, however this is usually totally false and all they can do is become victims. Remember that you can’t change someone, so the other person really wants to change.