It is impossible to know the exact number of our thoughts, but it is estimated that we have up to 70,000 thoughts per day, and New Scientist magazine averages 10 to 80,000,000,000,000 over a lifetime, a figure that exceeds the number of atoms that exist in the universe based on the number of neurons and all connections between them.
Among so many thoughts, we have learned to select those that are most aligned with the worldview that we form throughout life, those that produce a specific emotion and lead us to act in a certain way.
Even your worst enemy can’t hurt you as much as your own thoughts
? Buddha?
If we think we will get a good result, we will feel positive emotions that will motivate us to take steps to achieve it.
If we imagine a catastrophic ending, we can feel sad and unable and discourage ourselves from taking action, or we will take these less appropriate alternatives to address it.
Our mind has the ability to imagine, dream, create, invent, communicate, discover and change realities, although it is the same ability that also takes false steps.
It’s an incredible skill of the human being. We must listen to them, welcome them and manage them to learn from ourselves and thus show empathy for others, but it must be taken into account that emotional reasoning cannot always be trusted to make a reliable judgment.
We have established partnerships on how it made us feel a past fact, the bad thing is that if it was something negative we run the risk of projecting it into the future as a clear sign that it will happen again, because we feel the same as we did this time.
We are not the only ones who make things go wrong, we must keep in mind that life is made up of many variables that influence what is happening, if we forget it we will always feel guilty or blame others.
To build an open learning attitude, it is essential to learn from mistakes or communicate our displeasure to others, but we cannot blame ourselves too much.
Sometimes, thinking doesn’t say anything about you. It’s just a mind game.
To understand this, let’s learn to distinguish two concepts with a story:
Marta is going to find a friend with who had a relationship a few years ago, many doubts can arise and she imagines many possible situations that can occur during the reunion, after this time Marta does not blame or blame. I fell in love again and it was all in the past.
Of course it makes sense to feel emotions and concerns when you imagine what it will be like to talk to him again, but this imagination can make us recreate a plot and feel emotions that predispose us to attend the encounter with a negative or positive energy. and that also makes us feel good or bad in our skin.
Egosynthonic: behaviors, values and feelings in harmony with ourselves, accepted by our ego and consistent with our ideals and our own image.
“Would I like to do what I thought and are you in tune with me?”
I imagined that we were there after many years without seeing each other and that the meeting gave us so much joy that we ended up talking for hours.
Egodisistonic: behaviors, values and feelings that conflict and disagree with the needs, goals of our ego and our own image.
I imagined myself hurting myself, saying words that would make you suffer and I couldn’t stop saying them, I’m a bad person.
“Wouldn’t I like to do what I thought you DIDN’t agree with me?
Finished?
1. Know that our mind is able to imagine, create and dream the best, but also the worst.
2. Keep in mind that emotions are fundamental, but not always very good at confirming what we think.
3. Differentiate between the egosynthonic and the self-centered. We know that thinking about something is NOT synonymous with it happening, nor that we are bad people because we have negative thoughts, because then we can pass the filter of our self-image, our morals, our reflection and our values.