The immature personality is an incomplete personality. A personality that, formed by the total sum of the behaviors practiced, is poorly defined and has negative traits.
With this in mind, this is where it is understood that an immature personality gives way to a still incipient and incomplete psychology that can (and should, for you) change and improve to become stronger.
- In this term? Immature personality?is there an intense reality that often undermines the freedoms of others.
- It is possible to determine.
- Through psychotherapy.
- The main points to achieve an improvement and conscious structuring of its own essence.
Enrique Rojas, Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Extremadura (Spain), has systematized the main ingredients of an immature personality into 10 characteristics, a reality that we usually find as mental health professionals in our consultations.
So, from this approach, we will briefly analyze each of these 10 symptoms, alluding to their impact on our lives, if we are “carriers”?This worldly reality or if we are victims?
In the first contact, it is one of the aspects that attracts the most attention. You can deal with people who are afraid to “grow up”, they are people who are not aware of their responsibilities and their reality. Its environment has this feature, struggling to assume the roles that are expected of each according to its moment of evolution.
Getting to know each other is the most important task in a person’s life, so knowing their attitudes, skills and limitations is the logbook for good navigation. An immature personality can recognize this symptom, among others; this certainly overshadows other vital achievements that are essential for coherent and psychological training.
Constant mood swings can be a sign of an incomplete personality, moving from euphoria to melancholy or good humor to mood in a few moments, being unstable, variable and irregular is a symptom that something is wrong with the constitution of our essence.
Shifting frailty and fluctuating feelings mean that we don’t know what we are going to find in the other person. In this way, as if it were a roller coaster, the oscillations are so frequent that they are often harmful to those around an immature personality. It is not that one wants to hurt the other, it is that in the end it is inevitable to become a victim of these oscillations.
Like any other psychological characteristic, immaturity has different levels, to be aware of one’s reality is to know the present of oneself and to be responsible for qualities, possibilities and demands without neglecting oneself and not to think that you are better than others.
If we do not capture our own reality and that of our environment, we easily fall into a lack of harmony with ourselves and those around us. We need to learn how to measure distances and proximity, rating every point and situation, what we need and what we want to do.
Life doesn’t improvise. That is why it is necessary to plan a plan of life that will help us to mentally design our future, to find the balance between love, work and culture is the only guarantee of well-being, as Rojas points out, love must be the first argument of life, because it is what gives life and strength to others. According to this premise, the sum of everything must offer us an internal coherence that determines our vital development.
Understanding what it is, what it is and how our emotional life is structured is the key to the formation of a mature personality. Life makes sense when you love it, but there is no love without renunciation. At the same time, no one can be, absolute to the other, so it is understood that the most authentic emotional dependence and feeling we have cannot coexist without destroying ourselves.
Emotional intelligence is another excellent tool in psychology. While there are many types of intelligences, lack of vision and present planning, the hypertrophy of the present moment and distant impulsivity create a game that fundamentally leads to a loss of our growth capacity. If we do not analyze the facts, it is difficult for us to know where we want to live our lives.
Will is the jewel that adorns mature people, when we are fragile, the lack of moderation prevents us from setting concrete goals, which leads to the extinction of opportunities for improvement. If we can’t say NO, we lose our essence. We must learn not to be defeated or imprisoned by immediate impulses.
Becoming light and fickle beings makes us frivolous and leads us to a frustration that undermines our ability to overcome and combat the difficulties inherent in life Sheltering in an imaginary world is to move away from the reality and maturity so necessary for well-being.
Morality is the art of living with dignity. Making misuse of freedom means practicing something that is neither good nor positive for anyone. In the immature personality, everything is nailed with pins, which is why the seam is so easily undone that it aims to define the patterns of the dress of our life. That is why we must move away from the fashion of permissiveness, relativeity and instability, trying to enter the list of critical thinking and mindfulness.
As Enrique Rojas would say, maturity is one of the drawbridges that lead to the strength of happiness, the fruit of hard, serious and patient work, so there is no maturity without conscience and without total commitment to oneself. deserves to be identified in each of them.