They say that the past always happens, and that could not be more true, every day of our life is the result of what we carry to the costs, no matter how much we eliminate the facts that have already come out of our consciousness, they are all present in us, in who we are and in what we will be tomorrow, that is why it is so important to heal the emotional wounds of the past.
Something similar happens with the emotional wounds of the past and physical injuries, which heal, heal, but leave a mark, even if they never hurt again; however, if not treated properly, they can sometimes ignite and cause health problems. The wound can reopen and even get worse.
“When we heal the memories of our lives, the present takes on a new form. -Bernardo Stamateas-
Many think it’s not important to forget what happened, not think about what hurt us, sweep under the carpet and pretend. Healing wounds, however, is not something that simply happens with the simple decision that we want to heal them. In practice, all the emotional wounds of the past remain active through our unconscious processes. Let’s take a look at three of those emotional wounds that can continue to influence your life without you nodding, which negatively affects you.
Sometimes self-love is seriously affected by past experiences, different forms of rejection generate suffering, regardless of the conditions in which they occur, it hurts every human being, whoever it is.
When this rejection occurs systematically, it occurs when the person is still very childish or if it occurs in relation to much-loved characters, the situation opens up a very difficult emotional wound to heal, jokes, taunts, devaluations, constant criticisms or unfounded guilt do a lot of harm to those who suffer them.
Self-esteem damage is an emotional wound of the past that may be present for life; in some cases, it may never be completely cured; however, with proper trauma development, situations may be overcome and self-confidence may return, as well as self-affirmation and a sense of optimism about life.
Emotional injuries related to autonomy relate to such situations in which the person suffered excessive control over himself, the most common being that some characters in power have exercised arbitrary domination, thus undermining personal autonomy.
These injuries are all actions aimed at limiting a person’s freedom and decision-making ability, occur when a person is frequently corrected and punished, for unclear and arbitrary reasons, this can also occur when the person suffers constant disapproval, or if they are given explanations. necessary in every detail of each act. This can also happen if the person is treated as unnecessary or incapacitated.
This type of emotional damage from the past creates many difficulties in developing skills such as taking initiatives or deciding on different aspects of life; make the person submissive and passive, or extremely rebellious, even for no apparent reason.
The emotional wounds of the past that weigh the most in people’s present are those related to affection, occur when people have been abandoned, emotionally detached or isolated, usually parents are responsible for such injuries for their attitudes during the child’s childhood. they themselves may have been victims of similar practices, and repeat them with their children without even being fully aware of them.
Injuries related to lack of affection make the person extremely lonely in many circumstances, especially those in which she felt most vulnerable as a child, this generates the perception of not being important to anyone, there is also the idea of being misunderstood or misunderstood.
These emotional injuries also have serious consequences for those who suffer from them, the main thing is to become a person very dependent on others, the person constantly needs the approval of others, so often he ends up wanting to please. others even if you have to exceed yourself and your needs. The person’s mood varies greatly, always depending on the attitude of others.
All these emotional wounds from the past hurt our lives. The most common thing is that they prevent the growth and evolution of one or more aspects of personality, so it is very important to solve with the past, make peace with it, because it has enormous power over our present and determines our day. The path to this is a process of reflection that can be painful, but that brings to consciousness what happened to integrate facts into our history and move forward.