The past does not exist in reality, it only exists in our mind, in our memory, the memory will consciously affect our emotions, whether for better or worse, it will affect us in one way or another, depending on how we value it, evaluate it or make sense of it.
How many times do we tend to blame our past for what we feel now?This lack of emotional responsibility is extremely treacherous, because it does not allow us to take the reins of our present and makes us park in a reality that no longer exists and that, unfortunately, we cannot change.
It’s like hitting the wall. The more we want our past to be different, the more pain we feel.
Everyone chooses and decides whether they want to be unhappy for the rest of their lives or if they prefer to enjoy their time and enjoy life, is nothing more than a personal choice made in the present, which has nothing to do with what has touched us in the past.
Have you noticed that each person has a totally different vision of reality? We can easily see cases of people to whom something very serious has happened, but who have chosen to enjoy life and its present, however, in the same situation, other people decide. taking the place of the victims throughout their lives, isolating themselves, being irritated by their bad luck and not being able to focus on anything other than their past.
The difference between these people is, of course, the prism with which they see what they have happened, the former have accepted this past, but they have not let it influence their present, while others do not accept what has happened to them. , they keep sinking and end up losing a lot more life.
If you identify with those who have blamed your discomfort in the past, whether it’s education, abuse, abuse, rape or traumatic accidents, you should keep in mind that it’s over and you’re alive now.
It’s true that he was unlucky and would have been much better if he’d never been there, but it happened and there’s nothing we can do to change that, so your grievances, tears and rage are unproductive, stop using them!
Notice that now, and nothing else, are you alive to go out on the street, meet people, dance, have an interesting conversation, take care of a pet, write a book?And all the other wonderful things that life has in store for. You.
This is serious. Don’t shut up, people are here, waiting for you, all you have to do is accept your past, give yourself a hug and say: it’s over, I’ll say goodbye to your memory!I’ll thank you my friend, the gift!
We worry, with some frequency, about finding those guilty of what has happened in our lives. Do we blame ourselves, blame others, our parents, culture?But we thought, why?
Don’t you think that when things are no longer resolved or are no longer under our control, it’s better to let them go?This need to seek out the culprits only pushes you back longer and not in time or the will to take the reins of the “now”.
Stop looking for the culprits; it is no longer important or functional. The most important thing is that you “change the chip”, thank you for going out, being alive and being an even stronger person. Now you decide to enjoy your present as it deserves and not waste anything. more minutes in the past.