As we already know, happiness is a very diffuse concept, but also complex, we could talk about aspiration, something that we briefly realized and that, in an instant, loses a little of its brilliity, of its intensity. of small things, a simple balance with which we feel good, where we can appreciate everything around us, accompanies us and defines us.
You can have a gift that not everyone has. Let’s take an example: according to Forbes magazine, most of the richest people on our planet are unhappy.
- This shows us two things that we may already know: happiness is not bought with a failure of infinite zeros.
- And the art of unhappiness is perhaps on the daily agenda of all social scales.
- Even on the millionaire’s agenda.
Sometimes we’re too worried about things that aren’t important, things that have no solution, or don’t have to happen. We all know people who tend to anticipate things: “You have to do this because it can happen. “obsessive ideas where there can be permanent insecurity, which makes them unhappy and pollutes those around them.
Fear of failure, fear of loneliness. . . all this sometimes pushes us to do things that further complicate our reality, our seemingly simple daily life and where there are no serious problems.
The art of unhappiness sometimes exhibits behaviors that are difficult to recognize, here are some examples:
? Your present moment is fine, there is no difficulty or apparent problem, however, you begin to become obsessed with the future, with the uncertain, why is it clear?
? If there’s anything in life that doesn’t go well, however small, everything gets complicated, did you have a fight with someone?Did you have a bad day at work? That’s enough to have a bad week and extend this negativity to every project in your life.
? The important thing is not to be alone. In this way, you will be able to resist all that it is and with whom it is so as not to face loneliness.
? If you have achieved a goal that you have set yourself and are an expert in the art of misfortune, you will surely not benefit, you can set an even more difficult goal and the complication causes you even more frustration.
? If someone criticizes you, even if it’s constructive, you certainly won’t accept it. Because no one does anything for the better, do most people have a dual intention?And it’s never good.
The examples given above demonstrate great dimensional characteristics that define people unable to appreciate the happiness or goodness of things and the people around them: envy, persecutory mania, inability to assume responsibility, exaggerated perfectionism, excessive rationalization, negativism, low self-esteem, etc. In essence, it is the absence of vital meaning.
You don’t have to follow a religion or practice a specific kind of philosophy to realize that our lives have to make sense. A sense for ourselves. The people around us are not a threat, no one is waiting around the corner to hurt us.
Nor is it necessary to obsess over what will happen that day or fall into the error of overrationalization Is it important to maintain balance, use logic?
The art of NOT being unhappy requires us to learn to trust, it is impossible to control all aspects of our lives to prevent certain things from happening, happiness is not a goal, it is a state, an emotion, happiness is in everyday life, in the present and in our ability to cultivate it in the humblest possible way.