Once upon a time there was a sleeping beauty who slept in her relationship, to wake up she needed her prince to kiss her to break the spell to which she was subjected, he was her savior, who would free her from her long sleep and help her awaken. But what if the prince never shows up, what if those expectations of salvation that sleeping beauty has in her are never met?
Many relationships today follow this pattern of behavior: one sticks to a prince who does not arrive, and while he does not arrive, we assume the role of spectator of life.
- We have our own battery-free alarm clock and it seems that we need someone to perform this function.
- To make us happy.
- To activate us.
- In case we find this person but to walk away.
- We fall into despair and fall into a dream with which we can enjoy things.
- Where nothing else makes sense if the loved one is not on our side.
There are many sleeping beauties in this world, women who receive a kiss from the prince without deciding, not even knowing if they want to receive it, but once given, they cling to their savior. It was your lifeguard and it deserves a reward. It wouldn’t be fair to kick him, because there may be no more princes.
That is when a submission relationship arises, where they thank every day of their lives the prince for saving them, they dedicate themselves entirely to him, they owe him life and, therefore, his happiness, they already believe that their love is eternal!Until the day they start to notice that something is wrong, your prince no longer looks at them like he used to, he looks tired!The illusion is broken and reality appears painful and cruel.
This is the moment when love becomes suffering and also a constant struggle to maintain it. Sleeping Beauty strives, humbles heses hes. But nothing is the same. Beauty wonders if the prince ever loved her or just wants to know if he just wanted to kiss her and let her go. He also wonders what didn’t work, maybe it should have been harder, pretending to sleep even. after the prince kissed her.
Sleeping beauty lost her identity, depended on the prince from the first moment, if he left her, it would be nothing, because even to return to life she needed it, emotional dependence has imprisoned her, love is no longer synonymous with joy, but with effort and suffering. Beauty thinks she’ll die every time her prince walks away from her. It’s not fair, but it may be necessary. Because sleeping beauty has to wake up now, or start over, but for herself.
The stories of the princesses have made us think that we need someone to be happy, that we are somehow incomplete, which today translates into emotional dependence, we are nobody without the other person, our happiness, our well-being and the ability to enjoy what we love depends on how the other person is and feels. It’s not fair, is it? Because it’s not the same with the other person.
Sleeping beauty is tired of waiting for a prince to kiss her to wake her up, because she just proves that you want very little, that you can’t face life alone, that you need someone else. What if you kept waiting, fulfilling and opening your eyes?You will know how strong you are, you will discover that princes are not saviors and that you must not grant them such great power either. Whether he’s a good prince or a bad prince, he will eventually be overwhelmed by this responsibility and walk away.
No more submission, to offer us that first person who approaches with the intention of saving us. You don’t have to think that everything is fine and perfect, until time passes and everything deforms. We put on some glasses that we choose to see things. the way we want to, so we have to take them off, because we’re denied real reality.
If the prince doesn’t arrive, sleeping beauty can die without ever waking up, it’s something that happens a lot. If the couple doesn’t show up, we get sad, we regret it, “Nobody loves me!” is worthless!What do you mean, you need someone to recognize that in you so you can believe it too?
It’s time for sleeping beauty to wake up once and for all, stop subduing hem and be awakened by princes who will eventually become frogs. Beauty has the right to choose the prince, there is no reason to expect it. She loves herself, values herself and deserves the best. Just because you’re dating doesn’t mean your life will be better. Your life is complete and fulfilling. Sleeping beauty, after realizing it, awoke, stopped needing, and that’s when she began to (if) love, to realize that she was beautiful in herself.