The bewildering decision not to take responsibility
We’ve all met people who generate expectations, make promises, or commit to something, and then refuse to act. It is very common for it to happen with couples, when one of them disappears and the other does not know what to think. It happens in business or at work, when you give in and spend your time reaching an agreement and the other doesn’t respect you.
- Not taking risks is the style of some people.
- They create a conflict and they leave.
- Secondly.
- When it is necessary to share responsibilities it is difficult to find them.
- It is the usual way in which some criminals act: they want to take advantage.
- But they are not willing to pay the price associated with the risk they assume.
“Trying to fight an invisible enemy is like trying to escape your existence. “Anonymous?
These behaviors are very harmful to the victims of these people: they are deeply confusing. You can spend a lot of time trying to put the puzzle together to find out why someone is acting this way. There can be a lot of mistrust in others and a lot of recriminations towards oneself, so it’s up to us not to let that happen again.
Anyone who does not dare to take risks knows or believes that they have done something wrong, in addition, you know that the means you have used are not justified by the purpose you wanted, so the reasons why you acted negatively are not valid. weight, logic, honesty or consideration for others.
The person consciously acts against ethics or values, at the same time there is an ambivalence: he is unable to admit to others that his behavior is reprehensible, he does not admit that he was wrong and that his attitude is shameful.
In turn, this attitude shows a lack of modesty, not taking responsibility is a way to solve the problem ignoring the other, not giving it the consideration it deserves, which shows that there is no point in repairing the damage caused or even some disrespect (?Not so much?). Let those affected bear the consequences and accept that they can’t do anything. In this sense, not taking responsibility is also a form of cynicism: the person acts incorrectly, knows it and lets the affected person solve everything as he can.
Not taking risks, of course, is a clear sign of lack of responsibility, companies are built on collective agreements, implicit or explicit, laws, religions and ideologies are some of the ways in which the importance of these pacts so necessary for group life we benefit and in return we have to bring benefits to society, that is the basic agreement.
Responsibility refers to the ability to take risks, you learn from the first years of life. We must respect the commitments and obligations we have with others. Some may learn that responsibility is a personal and self-sufficient choice. No one needs to tell you, what to do to come to an agreement. It depends not on the reward or punishment of others, but on conscience.
Those who do not assume responsibility shy away from the obligation to answer for what they have done. This attitude breaks down commitments and, of course, also breaks trust. It is a behavior that denotes lack of autonomy. Those who prefer to hide remain prisoners of the punishment program. They act like they did when they were kids, hiding when they make a mistake.
A person who does not take responsibility poses many problems to others. It can be very painful to get hurt and the person involved doesn’t even apologize to you; makes you feel powerless. Maintaining the right proportions is something like emotional exhaustion.
These attitudes are also a form of manipulation. When we leave the resolution of the situation in the hands of one party, an additional malaise is introduced, this absence of those who do not assume their responsibilities creates links between them, the conflict is left in limbo and, in one way or another, extends over time, with all the negative emotions that this entails.
When you are responsible for ending a situation involving two or more people, you have no choice but to take on the challenge, you need to abandon the fantasy that the other will respond again for their actions, to make their presence felt. This fantasy is part of manipulative networks. ? Let him go?Who doesn’t want to face their responsibilities? Resolve what can be solved and page it. He’s the wisest.