If I feel trapped, I won’t be able to let go, I won’t be able to fly; If I don’t feel free, my wings will never open. Knowing this, why are there people who get stuck in relationships that wear them down from the inside?The key could be the need to be loved, considered or valued.
Fear of loneliness or isolation is the basis of emotional dependence, which helps create very close and rigid bonds, people who suffer from it cannot imagine the same without an emotional relationship or a person who constantly meets their emotional needs, when they feel alone or end. one relationship, they seek another almost immediately for fear of feeling unprotected or abandoned.
- When we want to fly.
- We want to feel light.
- We want to have a nest to return to.
- Which we must build to be our safety base.
- However.
- Once we have the tools.
- We try to relax and see what is outside.
- There.
- What we want and.
- Most importantly.
- Enjoy the flight.
If we make any harmful or mediocre connection, this flight will not be possible, as it will prevent me from climbing to the top and seeing a new point of view from there. It’s not possible to see everything around me if I’m attached to the nest.
The characteristics that define people who create such rigid unions and sabotage freedom of choice would be:
The most important thing, which could trigger other factors at the same time, is usually low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem feel weak and helpless; they generally do not trust their judgment and therefore seek that security abroad.
If we can become strong and build a good foundation of self-esteem, we can build on that and build a good emotional relationship. When I feel safe in myself and can decide what I want and at what time, it allows me to weave wings. that will give me a chance to fly and find my place.
Two strong and independent people decide to embark on a journey together, but taking into account the pros and cons of the contract, in this way they will be able to discern and make good decisions: the basis will be built on good self-esteem and good judgment, not on weak and anxious needs or bonds.
Working dependence on others is a personal process, an inner search. What can be missing from me and what should I look for in the other?That could be the key issue. Having a space for us in the relationship gives us time to ask ourselves if what the other provides us is what we want or if it gives us what we think we deserve.
If we give ourselves this space and do not give ourselves permission to think and be alone, we will not be able to value what we have or think about what we want, and most importantly, we will never find the freedom to decide whether we want to fly or stay where. are.
Emotional dependence prevents us from appreciating ourselves because we look outside for what we lack inside. Stop and think, does this make me happy, do I feel valued?Does it help me be better than me, motivate me or stop me?
The most important challenge in a healthy relationship is to understand that it would be possible to live perfectly without the other, but to realize that one is better with it. The decision, not the need, is what makes us strong, complete and safe. We strive to work our wings, which is called self-esteem, and give you the freedom to fly and choose.