Accepting what happens to us is the first step in not escaping our reality and learning to make changes, many times we need more time to accept painful events until we can integrate them into our lives, on the other hand, this acceptance will help us define a new and more real vision of ourselves and what is happening to us.
The challenge that every human being will face at some point in his life is to adapt to the most adverse circumstances, because what we want does not always happen, will come a day, more or less sad, more or less distant, in which we will have to accept the facts, either to change them or to integrate them into our history.
- The best way to deal with reality is to admit our vulnerability rather than try to hide it.
- But it’s also the best way to build healthy relationships.
- Acceptance is not cowardice.
- But a representation of the courage to admit that we are in a place we do not like.
There is a significant gap between knowledge and understanding, and an even greater gap between understanding and acceptance.
Reality sometimes falls in love with us and, on other occasions, it simply overwhelms us, we have to accept that life is not what we want, that is what happens to us, acquiring tools to integrate all the situations in which we live, especially painful situations, is a sign of emotional intelligence.
Emotionally intelligent people experience negative and painful emotions without the burden of frustration that deprives them of the urge to live; they know that these emotions are inevitable and do not try to suppress them; however, people with low emotional intelligence face an even more painful process. and are unable to differentiate pain from suffering.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a personal choice. We tend to suffer more for what we don’t accept. Denial, when there is a very strong emotional impact, is valid as a first defense strategy, but becomes ineffective when perpetuated over time.
What you can’t accept, let it go, then you’ll understand
Accepting what has already happened or should happen is the first step in transcending the emotional impact of any adversity, the quickest way to change our attitude to pain is to accept what is happening to us, knowing that it can help us in some way in our personal growth.
Our lives are dynamic. Since childhood we have been constantly changing: changing toys, school, friends, family figures; Accepting that it is part of life, instead of burying it as if it could never happen, allows us to understand that life is made up of cycles that close in one way or another.
There are losses that we cannot overcome, but we must accept them, learning to accept the loss is necessary to understand the feelings that are experienced and make sense of them in the present, because time does not stop, despite the absence. Rearrange memories so that they allow us to move forward.
We never lose what we value. Everything we love deeply is part of us, when we connect with another person, close friends, family, brothers, a couple, this connection transforms us and makes us, in a way, part of their reflections.
So, in the face of any kind of loss, we have to understand that the person who left us left his mark, whenever we want him to be with us, we just have to look at our gestures, our words and our attitudes so that we can see a part of it with us.
“When you feel sad, look at your heart again and realize that you are crying for what has been your greatest pleasure. ” – Kahlil Gibran-