Family are the people who offer light to my heart, not dark days clothed in sadness and helplessness. Because you don’t need to have the same blood to create a bond; Authentic union is created with loyalty and affection, not common surnames.
At the end of 2015, an interesting poll was published in the “Daily Mirror”, which reflected those little things that make a family happy: things like ‘spending time together’, ‘laughing’, ‘having hobbies in common?’ And respect. Thoughts and opinions were considered essential in daily life.
- A family offers refuge.
- Creation and sustenance.
- But it is everyday life covered with respect.
- Sincere love.
- Complicity and reciprocity that creates the most authentic bond.
- Which we can somehow establish with more people.
We know that you don’t need the same genetic code or certificate to appreciate someone as part of our heart, family is the people we choose, where we can include both family and friends and even, why not, our pets.
As the anthropologist Lévy-Strauss said earlier, the family should be the ideal model that represents the most basic social group in a society, the first reference every child will have in his early years.
The most important thing in a family is not that it is perfect or that it lives under one roof, but that it is united so that no problem can overcome it.
Nobody chooses his family; We come into the world as if we had fallen from a chimney, and it is luck that determines whether the ties we make with our parents will be healthy, indifferent or even traumatic, it is the closest link with the human being, but paradoxically In many cases , is launched as one of the most complex and conflictive.
In situations of family conflict or in families where relationships are negative, it is important to consider certain aspects:
The only way to heal suffering is to accept reality, integrate what we have lived and understand that we have no moral or social obligation to maintain a bond that hurts, we cannot choose our family, but to build our own and we value those who truly enrich us.
A family relationship remains a small social group united by more or less significant bonds, we can go through these same processes with friends or other relevant personalities that fuel our personal growth, and then who can be ours?Family? No need for a blood legacy.
While much research indicates that experiencing traumatic events in the family can determine the quality of our subsequent social relationships, each case is certainly unique and special, we can all initiate healthier, healthier relationships that allow us to heal deficiencies in our own lives.
It is worth considering these dimensions that build positive relationships, the same ones that will help us build our own authentic family or strengthen the one we already have.
If we want to build positive relationships, it is important to consider the following variables:
The family are the people who enlighten my heart, those who do not bring me storms and who respect my spaces, accept my faults and give me smiles in the days of sadness.