In the past, when someone lied to me, I would feel so angry and even offended that I would confront them and expose them where and when they were going. It seemed to me that the lie, although it had nothing to do with me, was an affront to my intelligence, my ability to discern, and I, a legitimate Aryan, could not let go and got involved. in clashes.
Have the years passed and gone? I moved to another city and found myself surrounded by wonderful people, but also surrounded by people lying about anything, people addicted to lies. And what to do? At first, I fought with everyone, he rubbed the truth on their faces and in the world, I was going to the clashes.
- The years have passed and I have devoted myself to studying.
- As I said in other articles.
- Meditation.
- Yoga.
- Therapy.
- Reading? Anything that could show me what was in me.
- Show me the real Kossia.
- And I discovered that my discomfort with lying came from far.
- Far away.
- In childhood.
I never believed in Santa Claus, the Easter bunny, the bag man, the monsters (I’m not against those who believe, don’t get me wrong). I knew, from a very young age, that my mother was giving us a hard time supporting us and that, on many of these dates, I could not live the movie dinners, win the fashion dolls (not that I was a fan of dolls), win Easter eggs from big brands. I was raised very realistic The lies I heard were intended to mitigate or not create problems, and when I found out, I was already a teenager. Revolt.
I went out into the world very early, almost in no experience, but I wasn’t afraid of anything, which can often be a great danger, I remember that in my first job, in a newspaper in my village, I wanted to fight with a judge who lied in an interview that was denied me, and who sent me a response letter calling me “little journalist”. Today I find it funny, but at that moment the desire to go to his side (I was 18 years old) It was immense. But I remember my superior at the time saying, “This is going to happen several times. Is life like this?
As a journalist I worked in sports, the police field (which I was passionate about, since I am the daughter of two sons), the arts, the politics . . . and I saw that there was something in common in all of them: The comedian who treated me very badly behind the scenes, but when he turned on the recorder he became the most charismatic person in the world. The politician, who hugged a humble person, drank coffee, then mocked the situation; Games that are visibly sold; The policeman who teamed up with the bandit’s lawyer and the judge, and when the prisoner arrived at the police station, after months of investigation, a habeas corpus was ready and the lawyer was making fun of the work of honest cops?
In your personal life, have I seen people blatingly lying to get attention, the state of money?People lie to maintain relationships or break up. I saw resumes sounding joking, so the lies were so obvious, I saw people crying in front of others and swearing that they hadn’t done something they had done in front of me. And what to do?Become a vigilante?
I admit I went through that phase, like I said before. But no one, yes, CAN fix the whole world. However, there is one thing you can do for the world: change yourself. Be honest with yourself first. Don’t lie and you’re good to go. Learn to respect the lifestyle chosen by others. Show your kids to be honest like you. If a person lies, they have a reason. Before he hurts you, he hurts himself, because lying is addictive. And after the first comes the second to hold the first, and the third to hold the second?And it gets to the point where the person can no longer stop.
How many people have married other people who didn’t like to please their parents or society and who have been unhappy for years and years?How many people have suppressed their sexuality for years and have been bitter and prejudged for not accepting themselves?in severe depression, had a heart attack or stroke because they were so suffocated by lies that they couldn’t stand it?
What I’m going to say next may seem selfish, but then you’ll understand why: watch your karma, be good, honest and don’t lie. Think of yourself. No one can stand a lie for long. Can it take days, months, years? But he always comes back. There’s no need for that. With fights, clashes, exposing the person (who already does this alone), you get tired, you get stressed, you get depressed, you expose yourself, you get sick and you can even die Here’s what you want?
I know sometimes it’s hard to know that someone has lied about you can do a lot of damage. But if you act properly, the lie won’t stay and the author will self-destruct. It’s the law of return. No one can escape it.
What’s the point of wearing the best clothes, buying the best shoes, going to the best parties and having to go to the bank or the vendors?What’s the point of lying about how to do a job, being hired, and when is it time to fail?What’s the use of lying to your children and sleeping with a heavy conscience?What’s the point of being unhappy with someone you don’t like so you don’t lose your marital or economic status?What is the point of suppressing sexuality itself?, reaching the age of 60, 70 and saying? How much I missed. What’s the point of having to change lounges or stores every month because you can’t afford it, but still want to be aligned?An hour the house falls off. There’s no way out.
So instead of hitting your head, let the person talk. That’s how we change the world. Everyone takes care of themselves, and when you feel ready, it spreads that love to more and more people (because when we discover our true “I” we become more love). Small actions help. I write, I tell my experiences and show people who are not alone and that yes, there is an opportunity to move from fire to a quiet river, I have not yet reached the level of emotional and spiritual maturity that I am looking for. but I won’t give up and that’s what motivates me every day.
I am fully aware of who I am and that I cannot change people, change is a long, continuous and individual job in which I work day by day and the results come. When a person insists on lying to me, I retire and in addition to thanking my prayers for resolving the situation, I ask the person that in an hour he will recognize the damage he has done to the other and himself, mainly, and change his position. This can last up to more than one incarnation. But it’s going to happen, go on!
So take care, get better, get out of there. And the Universe will reward you, I’m not saying it’s difficult (I learned from a very special person), I say it’s different. And anything that’s different is really scary. But, I mean from experience: it’s worth it. Crashes don’t prove you’re better or worse than the other, but they don’t match you. Be different.
namaste