Raise power. To be together. It offers life, enriches, destroys the castle. Build it again. Awakening, Dreaming, Eating, Devouring. Love, I want to talk. Disagree. Reconciling, smiling, hugging, admiring, cultivating affection, calming down, frisson, all this and more, is a growing couple.
Know the tastes of our partner, know their joys and fears, remember the names of their favorite painters, have intellectually stimulating conversations, have confidence and freedom, offer special details, etc. This is a couple’s emotional world, with their love cards and detailed itineraries.
- From there.
- Is it possible to build a couple without mutual dependence?Yes.
- Because one knows the other’s concerns.
- Supports those concerns.
- And tries to do everything possible to avoid them.
- This is an essential aspect of the growing couple.
According to psychologist John Gottman, love cards are that part of our mind in which we store all relevant information about our partner’s life; remembering this and paying attention to our partner’s changing feelings allows us to know their goals, concerns and hopes in life.
Therefore, we must take the time to complete a form with our partner, although it must be engraved in our minds, it is worth writing everything on a sheet together, it is an excellent exercise of knowledge. See?
This point, schematically, is very rewarding. In addition, each partner can write information about himself or herself in a notebook and exchange the notebooks.
It is not about longevity in the relationship, it is about the quality of intimacy, being in contact with the external points of our life (e. g. leisure) and our inner world (desires, beliefs, fears, etc. ), makes a couple behave emotionally intelligent way.
Being connected and compensating for changes in the love card we form for our partner as a person and for the relationship together helps us not to collapse in times of change (when you have a child, for example).
In particular, we can say that if we want to promote a healthy relationship, we can never relax and stop KNOWING our partner, admire him, update our love cards to get closer and thus increase individual and joint development.