Today we will talk about passion and creativity. Although they appear to be slightly different elements, the most recent research has concluded that there is an important relationship between the two. Creativity can be one of the main nutrients of passion in our relationships.
It is believed that long-term romantic relationships end up relying on a kind of mechanical automatism, sharing routines, goals and ways of understanding life and, in one way or another, loses passion.
- However.
- This may not be the case.
- In fact.
- The presence of passion in long-term relationships would have much to do with the contribution of creativity to the relationship.
Romantic passion in a relationship refers to desire, eros, sexual attraction and romantic desire, something that many couples end up losing after a few years, giving way to a different love.
This is what we thought so far, just as we thought relationships based exclusively on passion generally did not last or were not consolidated as long-term alliances.
The truth is that passion is something we all need, to a greater or lesser degree, and perhaps it is something we should not abandon in favor of a more established relationship over time.
According to studies conducted by Northwestern University and the University of London, love is not excluded from a long-term relationship, even if its maintenance requires a degree of creativity.
Not everyone resigns themselves to losing the loving passion of their lives over time, even if this loss gives way to a more stable relationship.
Passion plays an important role in our development as a person, in our personal well-being and also in maintaining a lasting relationship.
One example is the great popularity of poetry, books and romantic films. Deep down, neither of us is happy to lose this magic to our partner or to easily accept another kind of love.
Passion moves the world and moves our lives, finding it or losing it brings out the best and worst of all, so it is so powerful and, at the same time, so fragile.
The results of studies in this regard indicate that among couples who have maintained the relationship for an average of ten years, 40% say that after all this time, they are still very much in love.
Their testimonies are not the only ones demonstrating this, the results of the MRI tests performed with them showed that the people who reported this high degree of sustained love passion with their long-term partners also had the same high levels of activation in the brain regions observed in the early stages of a passionate relationship.
We can support these results in factors such as regular intimacy, intentional search for sexual satisfaction, focus on positive relationship experiences, etc. , however, this study focused on another factor that seems common in these people’s lives: creativity.
Several studies have shown the importance of the creative process in our emotional well-being, in our satisfaction with life and in the promotion of new relationships, but this research goes further.
Very creative people would be better able to attract partners with which to create important emotional bonds, and it would be easier for them to keep passion alive.
These studies combined creativity with people’s ability to see their partners through ‘pink lenses’. This is what we call ‘positive couple illusions’ in psychology.
This kind of illusion seems to ignore the couple’s flaws and, in turn, provides a solid foundation on which the couple feels more valued, more desirable, more attractive and happier in their relationship.
Creativity in this type of long-term relationship is a key element, when present, boredom and dissatisfaction are not part of the relationship.
Passion is not an exclusive feature of romantic relationships, people can be passionate about almost every aspect of their lives.
They are passionate about their work, their friendships, their hobbies and can be much more open than others to new experiences or ways of thinking.
Thus, we begin to understand that romantic passion is another facet of people passionate about life, maintaining this vision of creative thinking as a way of life is not unique to lovers.
Passion for life can be developed through creativity, however, creative thinking can be acquired and formed, cultivating passion is perhaps one of the best things we can do for ourselves.
We cannot resign ourselves to the loss of passion, we may simply need to rediscover it, recover that flame that we thought was lost.