Be careful because the term “toxic person”? It is a very easy label to place in case of conflict, because it places all the negative responsibility for the confrontation in the other, that is, it establishes a cause of which we are victims: a very tempting place, no doubt. , is a resource especially accessible for emotional sloths and for those who think there is no stain on their personality.
These people do not want to see toxicity as the result or as a reaction to a situation among many of the people involved and want to think that this is a characteristic that the other already has, in this sense the person who puts the label does not know that toxicity, if it exists, has history.
- Another element that should make us more cautious with the term?Toxic person?is it not a purely scientific label.
- There are no toxicity studies.
- There are studies of behaviors that were then labeled as toxic.
- “After the fact?”and without considering many of the variables that cause these behaviors.
Finally, it is a label that has become so popular that it involves a number of distortions that turn against ourselves, no one is immune to any behavior classified as toxic, including as toxic this behavior that harms others, and is the act of tagging behaviors and labeling people, for some, at a step?
Calling someone toxic is not trivial. In fact, it can be a very serious attack, a cruel insult disguised as moral authority that the fact that you have browsed some books of self-help can confer on you, without greater commitment or intention with your reading than to delegate responsibility to others.
The term toxic is easy to understand. It has strength because of the toxic tone it emits, in the imagination it alludes to a substance of variable color, sticky, flammable and with which we have to be very careful, in that sense when we say that something is toxic we say that we should not trust it.
Thinking about the above, can we start analyzing the term?Toxic person? And the fact that he put this weapon in the hands of people who don’t understand the consequences of its use, this is at least worth considering.
No one alone is a toxic person. If you don’t agree with that, because there are exceptions that are always outside the rule, we’ll accept that everyone has the potential not to be.
Humans don’t have arsenic or asbestos instead of blood or cells, people are sometimes a calm sea, where candles and rudder seem to harmonize to take us wherever we want, but other times they just feel the storm, without even feeling the water. . A storm that, on the other hand, we often feed, drive or spread.
In these transits of life, different circumstances and events, our expectations, our way of behaving and our values clash with those around us, feeling this emptiness and uncertainty, we can choose to isolate this emotional vacuum, letting our responsibility be in the other.
We could analyze over-criticism, intolerable behaviors, symptoms of relational wear, etc. All of this could be done, but it involves doing an introspection and a little work with yourself, which is highly recommended before putting the label “toxic person” on the other.
Everyone can be the victim of toxic behavior. Most commonly, however, people engage in toxic, non-toxic dynamics. We do not talk to each other when he does not speak to us out of pride, we insist on one issue to emphasize the disinterest of the other, we assume a position of dependence because the other is too protective.
Finally, the term toxic is a term as strongly as a lack of precision, to say that someone is a toxic person only proves that it is dangerous or potentially dangerous, does not say what that danger means, what aspects it refers to, how we can protect ourselves if necessary, let alone how we can help. The person who receives this tag. In this sense, can we end up calling those who fight, those who dare, those who are sensitive?And we will not be unharmed as a society in this new way of categorizing people.