Few sensations can be more expressive, satisfying and liberating than letting go of our complexes. The expression of being himself and the thought of “Do I love myself as I am?”They act as true weapons of power, as caresses for our self-esteem. and as powerful shields in the face of empty criticism and destructive commentary.
Until recently, the theme of complexes was their own exclusive territory of psychoanalyst jargon. A place where terms such as “Oedipus Complex”, “Bovary Complex” or “Electra Complex” have defined a kind of wildcard or drawer in trouble where to place any behavior or personality trait.
- “We must not eliminate our complexes.
- But come to an agreement with them.
- Understand them.
- And prevent them from leading our behavior.
- -Sigmund Freud-.
What’s the complex? It was introduced by Carl G. Jung and later popularized by Freudian psychoanalysis. However, beneath this thick forest of terminologies and attempts to categorize human behavior, there is an undisputed central root: the feeling of inferiority.
Within the framework of the most basic goals of psychology, be able to detect and understand the origin of these answers generated by the ante mind?Self-perduced flaws or beliefs are almost like pulling the nails that hold the door of a basement that has been closed for a long time. We are talking about a private space where you breathe an environment that needs to be ventilated, oxygenated by many points of view and by the light of good self-esteem.
It must be said that it is not easy. The process of breaking or reframing such destructive thought patterns takes time and a lot of therapeutic finesse. In the end, as Freud himself once said, a certain trauma can sometimes be hidden under a particular complex.
Let’s look at this in more detail
It is curious to delve into the etymology of these terms that we so often use. The word?Complex ?, derived from the Latin “complectere” and means kissing, kissing. So we’re talking about some kind of bear hug, getting caught in its ferocious claws to form a single being, the same entity where predators and prey coexist.
Similarly, another fact that draws a lot of attention is that any definition of a manual says that complexes feed on our own irrational thoughts. Phrases like “I’m a whale thanks to all those extra kilos,” “I’m a coward, an ostrich. “hiding his head?” Will I have less than one non-significant zero?Relentlessly return the feeling of inferiority.
However, some aspects need to be clarified: these irrational thoughts often come from unreal, punctual and painfully specific situations; most of our complexes originate from childhood; a family that devalues their children, who verbally injure them out of irony or contempt, creates deep trauma.
Subsequently, these traumas were consolidated in adolescence. Lack of self-esteem and useful strategies to defend themselves and the problem confuse young people in the face of this wild world of certain schools or institutes. Places where you will find all lack, physical, behavioral or even peculiar?Genius?often cosified and cruelly informed.
The feeling of inferiority is a virus against which it is good to develop good immunity, to travel our existential paths with fragile self-esteem and the concept of me hidden in the basement of our mind has serious consequences, emotional relationships, for example, can become true bonds of captivity, where people have power and the other quiet and consent.
“People differ from animals by their ability to feel complex, whether superior or inferior. -Fernando Savater-
No one is more than you and you are more than any other, it is one of the best slogans to keep in mind in our day to day, but the clutches of this bear that kisses us like to remind us at all times how insignificant we are. the faults that slaughter us, and that whoever thinks in front of his mirror does not deserve to smile.
This is not fair: we must confront these thought patterns
There’s no easy way. To regain self-esteem, you have to walk along a zigzag path full of rocks, where only will and courage will allow you to reach the top. A summit where I can finally shout: “I love myself as I am, I am well, I am a beautiful person, capable and worthy of building my own happiness. “
In conclusion, always remember that we are not in this world to suffer or enclose our wonderful existential essence in the prison of the complexes, we deserve to be free, happy and authentic, and above all to live our own reality, not what others say.
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