There are articles I’d like not to write because there are words that hurt more than you want to believe, but since my son lost his smile from child sexual abuse, I think if he had recognized the signs he was showing while everything was fine. Continuing, he could have avoided his suffering.
That is precisely why, so that you and your friends do not suffer this pain so difficult to describe, I wrote this article How can a soulless person do that to his son?I hope you read this article and can help. I’ll explain the signs and symptoms children feel when they are sexually abused and how parents can help them overcome this trauma.
- I know it will be a difficult text.
- But I also know that these words can prevent other children from suffering.
- It would be great if it were not necessary to write about these issues.
- But unfortunately these abuses exist and our children can become victims.
I wish I could protect my children from all the evil in this world, I wish I could avoid their suffering and be eternally happy. I know it’s not possible, but I can educate you in a way that’s harder for someone. make you suffer.
Child sexual abuse is more common than you might think because the data suggest that we only know 2% of cases, as most of the time the child feels embarrassed, scared and even guilty about what is happening.
Sexual abuse does not always occur aggressively, but is often silenced by perverse emotional manipulation, mixed with abuse of power, which an adult pedophile can exert against a helpless child.
The paedophile often use emotional manipulation to achieve his goals and keep the child silent, manipulation that leads the child to feel guilty or afraid of being rejected if his parents find out what happened.
In addition, we must remember that, unfortunately, most child abuse is committed by a family member or someone known, in such cases, it is usually adults themselves who are silent out of shame, what will people say?Instead of helping the victims. But this doesn’t just happen in the family; people who live with your child, such as teachers, friends, or other adults, and even strangers, can abuse him.
Here are some warning signs that your child is being sexually abused
The first thing to understand is that even if your child has been abused, you are not to blame, there is no magic recipe to prevent our children from being sexually abused, because, as we have already said, they can be abused by people in which we have full confidence, such as family members or teachers.
So the first step against abuse is to build a trusting relationship with your child, he needs to know that if he decides to tell what’s wrong with him, you’ll hear it, believe it, and, above all, protect him. You may feel like you’ve done something wrong, and that’s exactly how your child feels. The child believes he has done something wrong and is responsible for what is happening. You have to be patient to talk to him, to be able to make your son understand whatever happens, you will never stop loving him, that your support is unconditional and believe in what he says.
When your child is sexually abused, neither you nor he is to blame
If unfortunately the abuse has already happened and your child has lost the smile and joy of living, don’t try to overprotect, stigmatize or blame him, the best thing you can do is listen to him, love him and make him understand that he has no responsibility for what happened.
Also, his mission is to make him understand that what really happened was wrong, but he was very brave to deal with this situation, seek medical and psychological help. Remember that someone may have momentarily erased your child’s smile, but over time and with the right help, he or she can smile again.