We all need to be recognized. It is not a matter of pride, selfishness or immaturity, the human being, from an early age, needs the respect and affection of all around him, that is where this sincere recognition of ourselves implies.
Our worth is recognized as loved and loved human beings; our virtues and abilities to advance and achieve our goals are recognized; be happy with maturity and integrity.
- Under this essential dimension is also the strength of these bonds of attachment that give us confidence and help us grow.
- Our parents and family are the first social circle to offer us recognition.
- Respect and affection.
If we have this first “substrate”, we will also have the privilege of self-esteem, the one with which we can advance emotionally and personally. Subsequently, and thanks to our social relationships, we will also be recognized by our friends and partners. But keep an eye out: at the same time that we agree to receive you, it is also essential to know how to offer the recognition of others:?I appreciate you as a person, I appreciate you and I believe in you. I know what you’re capable of and I respect you for that. Are you a part of my life?.
Let’s talk about it today. We are deepening the concept of recognition.
We must remember, above all, all these pillars that underlie our self-esteem:
1. Respect for yourself: essential. If a person does not value himself and does not recognize himself as a capable and important person, we have nothing, love always begins with the person himself. Yes, I value myself and can see all my virtues and my right to be happy; I can do almost anything, mainly to bring me integrity.
2. Trust in myself: I am aware of my abilities and limitations, I trust myself to move forward with balance and security on the path of life, if I do not trust myself, I will lose control of my life or worse, I leave it to others. And something like that isn’t healthy.
3. La responsibility to have control over our own lives: you are the captain of your ship. You’re not a kid, let alone a stowawawa. It is essential that we know this from an early age in order to make our own decisions. We value each other more as people and we will be brave.
4. La conviction that we are strong: Never look at your life from the point of view of necessity, but of possibility. We’re all strong to be happy in this complex life, but you must have confidence and courage, never think that others are stronger than you, or this will be the moment when you will start building walls around you. Error.
As you can see, around all these points is integrated the need for recognition, but first, self-recognition. The certainty of knowing that I am a person worthy of accomplishments, balance and happiness. In the early years of your life, you may not have the respect and recognition of your family. These ties may not be right for you.
Maybe so, but never get stuck in that past of misfortune, look inside, find the strengths we all have, and find the lifeguard of this self-recognise, the one who tells you to be a brave person. the best and love always starts with yourself.
As you can see, we’re talking about a fundamental recognition that fits the concept of self-esteem.
Surely you know one or more people who always seek recognition from others, a person who values their actions, their words, their behaviors, their attitudes and even their physique, when these needs become almost obsessive, we talk about unhealthy recognition. a person looking outside for what they can’t find inside.
In other words, as we have said before, it is essential that recognition also comes from one’s inner strength, it is not necessary for others to recognize that I am a whole and courageous person, I do not need, at every moment and every hour, to tell myself how well I do things. I know that too.
It is true that we all need friends, family and couples to give us recognition, but not obsessively and continuously, because then what I will show is an obvious insecurity in my person and then a pillar of my self-esteem will be broken.
Recognition is vital for the human being because it helps us to grow safely, but it is also essential to exercise it inside, so that it remains strong as an internal engine capable of giving us confidence, courage and stability.