Forgiveness is a very powerful act of liberation, but also very difficult to achieve, we are not always willing to forgive, which makes it an even more valuable attitude.
Are there many circumstances that lead us to forgive someone, did it cause disappointment, perhaps it hurt?But of course, forgiveness involves a lot more than we think.
- Not accepting someone’s forgiveness involves creating feelings of resentment toward each other or others.
- Which benefits no one.
- As the person will end up with a series of negative emotions without knowing how to handle them.
Life gets a lot easier when you accept excuses that never came. This is called forgiveness in your heart.
It is often thought that forgiving the other person is giving him reasons and agreeing with him, it is not true. Forgiveness does not mean giving reason to the other, it is to free oneseed from the bonds of bitterness.
In addition, forgiveness is a totally personal and independent decision. If you made a mistake, apologize; If you feel bad about something negative you’ve done, ask for forgiveness, it depends on the other person who grants you forgiveness or not, now you have to be honest.
To understand a little more what forgiveness really is, to forgive the other person who has done something negative and repents, we need to know more about this “selfless” attitude.
“There are people who do not forgive and prefer to hate, because hate makes them feel strong and in control. But on the contrary, forgiveness faces its deepest pain. -David Fischman-
Here you will discover what it really means to forgive someone, without hate, but also without forgetting. Accepting each other’s forgiveness must be a liberating attitude, but for that we must know it in depth.
When we forgive we do so based on what the other has done, that is, it is not a justification for their attitudes, forgiving the other has much more to do with your response than with what the other has done.
People think that once forgiven, everything is forgotten and not right, it was a difficult, bitter situation, an experience that is not forgotten, but we must not confuse this with rancour, because sometimes, if we do not really forgive, we can feed this dark feeling.
When you forgive, not to speak, you feel an inner peace that frees you and makes you feel good, there is no place for bitterness or hatred, everything is in balance.
The purpose of forgiving someone is to heal a pain that has caused us and inevitably hurts us, we are emotional beings and it is normal to feel pain, but if you forgive it will be like letting go of someone you have taken prisoner and you will realize that person was you.
Sometimes we focus too much on the problems of the past that prevent us from seeing our future, let alone focus on our present.
Therefore, when we forgive, we have no grudges, even if we do not forget, because we will close this past and look to the future, we will really release all that negative emotion that we have, because it is normal to feel disappointment, pain, frustration, anger, etc.
“Forgiveness is the courage of the brave. Only one who is strong enough to forgive an offense knows how to love. -Mahatma Gandhi-
Can you forgive? Not everyone is capable of it, because it is something that requires inner strength, a liberation from the fear of failing us again and disappointing us.
Will there always be anyone in life who hurts you, whether it’s your partner, your kids, your family, your friends?Don’t ever forget it. Then you have to learn to forgive, because you have no choice but to accept that people are hurting, and even you can do it to other people (perhaps unintentionally) and you will want to be forgiven.
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