It is women who seem to suffer the most when they reach the fourth decade of life. This is because they go through a biological stage in which they are neither young nor old. But how to overcome this crisis or just prevent it from appearing?
You may be afraid to grow old or you may not be so young, or both. The truth is that the so-called 40-year crisis is being suffered by the vast majority of women and also by many men; for women, this adds to the menopause and the symptoms it causes, both physical and psychological, are starting to pass.
- Doesn’t the mid-age crisis look good the day the person puts out the 40 candles; it may appear a little sooner or even later.
- It is time to start looking at what has been done so far and the outstanding issues that we have not resolved.
- No doubt.
- In some cases.
- The idea of retirement is already in the minds of the vast majority (although it still takes at least two decades for this to happen in most Western countries).
Researchers point out that there are two types of age-related seizures, one of which is evolutionary, which has to do with the years we have and our biological changes, the other is circumstantial, motivated by changes in the environment, but it also affects us. personally, the 40-year crisis is included in the first group.
The symptoms of reaching four decades of life can be accompanied by depression and anxiety, especially from social and family pressures when we reach a certain age, for example, if that person has not yet married or had children, has found a good job or has not done so. buying their home, studies indicate that they are more likely to feel sad, more than someone who has followed these cultural guidelines.
The reasons for the midlife crisis are diverse, but the most common are insecurity, over-responsibility, the same long-term routine, partner conflicts, mistakes, boredom, lack of clear goals, etc.
Undoubtedly, one of the most important signs of the crisis of the 1940s is the need to be “young” again, that is, to be 20 years old (or younger). This involves looking for new experiences, doing things they didn’t want. do before or could not do it for different reasons, dress like a teenager, go to bars or nightclubs, etc.
This new attitude towards life can become a new and wonderful awakening, a motivation that takes us out of our routine and enriches our life, but it can also provoke a great nostalgia that paralyzes us and makes us begin to think deeply about what has already been done. past. disappeared, forgetting that we still have a lot to do.
The positive change that can emanate from this crisis comes, in large part, from the acceptance that time has passed, without feelings of anger or helplessness at this fact, we can say that a good reflection and a good recast of our life, which is actually what our body asks for, will make us move forward with the wisdom of the present and the young anguish of before.
At specific points, what can we do about it? Crisis?
Keep a positive attitude: it doesn’t matter if everyone points out that you’re no longer so “young”; It’s good to know that age brings experience, new experiences and knowledge. You still have many years left, there’s no point in making them suffer.
Enjoy: The experience of having matured and gone through many problems makes you even more interesting and prepared for anything that happens, you will have greater self-control, you will know the consequences of your actions and you will not feel at all inexperienced. remember that the best time is here and now. Don’t associate youth with happiness. At any stage of life, you can feel happy and full.
Reflection: you could say that you are in the middle of your life, this is a good time to reflect on what has already been done, achieved and also to reflect on the future, because there is still much to be done. it must now be evaluated and analyzed in detail.