Paradoxical intent techniques, a way to change foreign focus syndrome: symptoms, causes and treatment
Have you noticed that when something is forbidden, dangerous, inaccessible or difficult, it becomes more attractive?However, when things are too easy or we’re too sure we have them, we end up getting bored or losing interest. This is called the “forbidden fruit effect”.
- The effect of the forbidden fruit occurs in all human beings and is the result of man’s desire to know more than the unknown.
- To know the consequences of what is supposed to be dangerous.
- Human beings do not like prohibitions or impositions because they see his freedom threatened.
- Which is extremely valuable to us.
Therefore, when something is forbidden, it immediately arouses our interest and curiosity, and we are very motivated to know more and explore this prohibition, claiming that we are free and calming this unbearable curiosity.
From a young age, family, school and society tell us what is right and what is wrong, and impose limits on us that we must not exceed, because if this happens, we will have to face negative consequences.
But human beings like to experience in their skin these consequences that we are warned about, because the fact that someone tells us that there is a dark side awakens our attention to experiment and know where the limits are.
Overcoming these barriers that the world and others impose on us gives us some pleasure, because of what is called “conscious fear”, that is, we are afraid of these consequences that may occur, but we are aware that we control the situation and that, if we want, we can stop our adventure and escape.
That’s what we believe, because in a short time we realize that it’s not as simple as we imagined, but is this sense of control responsible for our desire to break certain rules or rules?
Our taste for the censored, complicated or that can have dangerous consequences is present in many situations of our daily lives. Take a look at social relationships.
For example, if a man becomes difficult, he becomes irresistible; but if you see that you have defeated him and he is crazy about you, then you lose a lot of interest, because there is no longer that “danger” that activates our adrenaline and makes the encounter fun.
With the subject of infidelity the same thing happens, the tingling that runs through the body by doing something that we should not do morally is, for some people, very tempting and attractive, breaking the contract that we sign with our partner can be dangerous, but being aware that it is we who put ourselves in this danger is what ends up being exciting.
The same goes for diets: if we are told that it is totally forbidden to eat chocolate, bread or any other specific food, we will be tempted all the time and eventually succumb to it.
Facing the effect of forbidden fruit can be beneficial if we realize its existence and learn how to handle it properly, here are some tips to achieve it:
It is important to know the forbidden fruit effect to better treat the people around us or in certain circumstances, we must be very aware that the most important thing for us and others is to achieve freedom, but we all have the ability to choose and control. Ourselves.